sex for the sake of sex is pointless nymphomania... if you going to have sex, do it for a reason... like because its pleasurable... or you're in love (yeah, right)... not because its sex and "everyone" is having sex... obviously everyone isnt... else wed have alot more child abuse cases in the criminal justice system.

This or money an opinion thread, but i have a question. I havent had sex, is that a good thing or a bad thing?? And if someone were to pay me money to have sex with them should i do it.

fuck, typo, think thnk you still might get it...

I have sex for love or interest in possibility of loving someone. There is no set price on it. Actually, since I moved my whole dating scheme is messed up.

First I hang-out with people, meet friends of friends and go to parties. Sometimes or another a guy might take the time to be interested in what I do. This makes me interested in them. If we run into eachother a few more times, then they are okay, because people must like them. Then I might instagate a get together and see how it pans out. Since I don't really know many people in Texas I haven't had sex since I moved or dated.

Getting lines like I'd like to buy you a house, I have a lot of money in my savings or just plain wanna go out. Just don't do it for me. It's not enough to even go out on the first day. If someone wanted to go and just hang-out is more my speed. Friends first maybe something more later.

As for criminal activities, if a guy goes to a party and only one girl is there and she is on drugs and they know what they plan on doing. If that guy just leaves and doesn't say anything he is just as bad as the rest of them. He shouldn't try to fight them, but he could say something or call the police to break it up. Being a nice person isn't looking the other way because you think you'll lose your friends.

Another thing I have heard the horrible stories about wives that were so dependent on their husbands not only did the father rape his daughters, he invited his friends over. Now his three daughters I know are total psychos that hate men. Plus, they are violent. His wife could have left, but she's probably just as mental.

sex isnt overrated, relationships are.
love is just a concept invented to justify fornication.
sex is great and i have slept with friends and nothing has changed afterwards, sex is just sex nothing more its not something thats going to fuck u up psycologically unless yr already retarded.the relationship will do that.

lemme guess your between the ages of 16 to 19? youre so clever, now if only i should tell my girlfriend whom i love dearly that our relationship and love is just a justification for me fucking the shit out of her... isnt that a bitch.... oh one question how do you explain internet relationships that contain love, or long distance relationships that contain love, or long relationships that contain love where both parties are virgins until after marriage? a fluke?

You both have points. Crying met people who don't think sex is a big deal. Billy is in a relationship where they agreed to be faithfull. I'm getting it right.

Both of you are fine. It's when trust is betrayed or one is made to look like a fool.

Take for an example a relationship that starts off open but later they decide together to be monogumous. At first everything is fine, but one person has more presure on them to still sleep with their friends. That means one person is being faithfull, while the other one betrayed their trust. In public that would be humiliating to their partner and cause bad feelings. Either the relationship goes back to open or they want to leave. Trying to play a double standard will make it even worse.

The big point here is getting to know someone before hand when getting into a serious relationship. You don't know who you are with on the first date, so after trading information about eachother gives them a chance to size eachother up and go into it by their own choice.

Personnally, I'm not that sexual. You might not be able to tell by looking at me. Ecspecially when going out to a club. If someone was to aggressive with me it could lead to a bad situation, like a really long relationship that ends badly, even though we are still friends. After to get to know more about them I size them up and it's not what I can live with. The friendship is obscured and the relationship is over.

You find ways that work for you, but you probably are not mentioning the times when everything fell apart or you found out you hurt someone'e feelings without knowing it.

i find ways that always seem to piss off my mates... but that has nothing to do with sex.

Internet relationships end when both mutant freakazoids finaly meet up and promptly vomit.

let me guess, you've had the experience already?

The whole sex thing depends on the person and that relationship. To some, kissing is more intimate than the sex part of it. Some sex is just straight up fucking, some is passionate and meaningful, it all depends on the situation. Each has it's own attraction factor, I however, would rather have a nice kiss and an "I love you" from my man as opposed to, "Baby, wanna give me some head". Unfourtunatly, men seem to find this a inviting request...
or at least the are good at faking that they don't relize that it's not... Either way, sex is still good in my book, as long as it's with the right person and you both are on the same page as to "what kind" of sex you are having.

Well...no but it happened to two friends I know..I've never heard it going well but then you rarely hear the nice stories as they aren't as interesting.

I usually have meaningfull friendships with my boyfriends. That picture in members pics, is my old boyfriend/best friend. When we broke up it was because we were to close to eachother. We agreed it was getting to be like we were sibings. Liking eachother enough to go a long with it, we gave eachother the chance to do better. His friendds didn't understand that, so it was hard to hang out anymore. We never got back together and I moved.

The nice part of the story, is I still miss him and all his weird stories and his big stupid bright red f*cking clown shoes. I loved hating his shoes. Before we stopped talking as much he bought some blue suede shoes. He might not even have them anymore, so I can't even look over at him and just think about his really odd taste in shoes. You know it would be different if they matched anything, but they don't. They are just there.

So as you can see you are all still missing the point. You should like the people you are with.

sex should be meaningful, if not it's just some animals rutting...and that's not fun...there has to be some kind of..attraction. I've never understood having sex to just have sex, even in my realm of experiences i've never had sex to appease some physical need(vibrators are good for that) i do so because i enjoy the emotional feeling...but love is not a necessary emotion for sex...

Of course you are right. However, emotions should make it easier to get on with your life. That way you don't feel used.

In the last story the sex wasn't too good at first. With the emotional feeling for eachother it got better. Then after we got really comfortable it was bad again. Later it got really really good. Still after all that he thought I should be more aggressive about moving in and having children and I always thought his friends didn't like me. After our seperation turns out the problems were still there, but still good sex.

good sex is nice...

Awww, but 'bad' sex can be nice too ya know

True that my friend

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there now tor feel better??