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cshadow · **provocations -** 10-10-06

Hi,

I hate conflicts and I hate if someone provokes me (Internet and RL). To avoid most of the conflicts (aggressive), I've got a system. I think it is not perfec. I want to know what you think about it and how are you avoiding conflicts.

Quote:

- Someone provokates me (e. g. I wrote/said something he don't likes. Most times, this provocation is written like a joke - like 'go away or I'll get angry')
+ I ignore it, cause I don't want a conflict.
- Seceond provocation (a little more aggressive cause he thinks I just not heared the first one)
+ I say, that I didn't want to annoy anybody and that he can ingore what I said.
- Third provocation (more aggressive, at this point I'm thinking that his problem is my person)
+ I say, that I don't want a conflict and I don't want to make us to enemys.
- Most times he ignors me. When I put a "did u" on my last sentence, I earn sometimes a yes (that's the time I c that I'm his problem). If this would happen in RL, I think I would recive a little punch.
+ I'm fed up now. I hate violence. I tell him, that I did nothing wrong and (if possible) the weakpoints of his arguments .
- Now most ppl explode. In their mind sentences like "how dare u? I'm god!". Insults more and more - in short: "flaming"
+ I say again, that I'm not here to fight or make somebody my enemy. I want peace, I'm pissed of and I don't want to discuss any more.
- Total ignoration, flaming continius. - At this point, I go. I hate this. But if I say one more thing, in RL there would be a fight or something similar, in the internet, the flame would be that much, if there was an admin, I would become baned.

The first time, the whole list became truth, I thought "this guy had a bad day, maybe he drunkt too much". Currently, I feel that it is quite impossible, that everyone drunk too much. So I'm thinking that the mistake is by me. On the other hand I think, the guy has a great potential of aggressions.

Is this system ok?
Any suggestions?
Is it wrong to go away, if we reach the last points of my list?

so far

cshadow

InKY · 10-10-06

Yes, I think it's always best to walk away as long as the other person allows you to. Doing so can be hard though because often the other guy will taunt you and tell everyone he won the argument.

I haven't encountered many instances of open provocation since school though.

I think your system is awesome and you should stay away from drunks!

Kendra · 10-11-06

i will say not all drunks are bad though. since their are all different kind of drunks. you have the silly drunks, the loving kind, the loud and obnoxious, and so on and so forth kind of drunks. so don't assume that all of them are bad to be around with. it's the samething as saying that about people who get stoned. stay away from stoners... see what i mean InKY?