Wow, I'm glad everyone jumped right in to help...
I solved the problem,
SOLUTION: for seamless loading, use an auto-increment feild, but drop and
re-insert it for every row deletion.
Ok, I solved it a very long time ago, but I've dropped that project and decided to use includes... it works much better.
here's the page I'm working on for those who care:
http://www.gallatinwebdesign.com
Bah!