I am having a hard time distinguishing the two lately.

Is it worth it to risk a perfectly good relationship, one of the best friendships that I have ever had, for the sake of emotional honesty, even when you are not even sure what the emotion is?

I would suggest that you figure out exactly what it is thats going on in your mind before saying anything to this person...

If i might offer... type it out here and see what it says to you when you read it, and the replies you will get(there are allways replies) here.. It might help clarify it for you better..

I have this problem rather often, personally. I get attached rather easily when I get a good first impression of someone, and I find myself wanting to spend all day and night with them. Although I really only want to be friends with them, I often mistake it for an emotional boundary that cannot be crossed, even though I don't know what it is exactly that I want to cross. Usually, if I give it enough time, the confusion/feelings fade and I realize one of two things: One, I really do like them, and so feel like I must tell them what I feel, or Two, I just want to be friends with them and I enjoy their company a little too much, and deem it selfish to continue doing so, and thus limit the time I spent with that person.
Not saying that's how it will be with you, but it's just how I deal with it.

i guess it depends on the realtionship somesss time you love them but just as a friend and not romantically and getteing involved with them might become complicated. YOu just have to look at the situation and judge it the best you can

there's nothing wrong with having romantic feelings towards a friend... the problem lies with knowing whether or not its reciprocated.

On the other hand could you risk to lie your friend about your emotions? If he-she is realy your friend he might understand and even help you a bit to sort things out. Feelings have the nasty habit to cross room right into heads of others. And what you feel as un-sure love could be twisted and interpreted as fear or hate or something else. Good luck with that one

Oh, boy...do I ever know this topic. *sigh* I'm in the middle of one of these damn situations right now. I know this thread was started last August, and I really hope these words of all of us has helped you, Afronova...

I totally agree with Rogue...sometimes it's really sad when you KNOW what you feel isn't reciprocated. And I totally agree with Victor...those emotions really can shoot away from you across the room...at 80 mph!!!

Okay...explanation. Recently I had to break off my relationship with a guy I just spent the past two and a half years loving. He had to choose. He and I had sorta evaporated into nothing...when he met another woman. She and I knew each other and I wanted to be friends with her...and still be friends with him. BIG mistake on my part...this is why he had to choose. Me? Or her? Well, I was trying to help him...also trying to be honest and good to him. It doesn't really matter, now.
He chose her.
I've lost him as a friend because I can't be around him with her anymore...it hurts bad and it hurts deep. I cry, I scream and rant...but all the same I know I'm better off.
I love(d) him.

My advice is this...Do all you can, and then know when to let go. It's not easy, but remember this is only a moment in time. The next moment might surprise you...

Sometimes there is no line. You love a friend romantically, at times when the potential is there for a relationship; your heart gets ahead of your mind and makes decisions for you.

Its a difficult position to be in . . but as soon as you can figure out your feelings . . rationalize it. Make a decision that's best for everyone involved.

that is EXACTLY how it is with me. eventhough i don't limit the time i spend with that person. i'm just addicted to them as if they are a piece of chocklate which i can't get enough of..........