Hi everyone, first i want to say i'm sorry for not being around here in a long long time, but now i'm back maybe i can try to help others if i ever get my mess straightened.
So, the thing is, i'm ts (transexual) and my parents think it's due to a medical condition. I've had a bunch of tests, I wanted the tests anyway, and the news came back pretty good for me, no std's, or anything else serious. My mother's convinced that I have a hyperactive thyroid, and i'm letting her think that, as with that, she's willing to bring me to see a therapist. But while at the therapist (she's confirmed that my thyroid is perfectly normal) we talk about what i'm thinking, and possible ways to proceed with transitioning. She's referred me to another person who's currently working with some other tg's and i'm pretty sure she can start me on the hormones. And i'm sure i can get my mother to bring me there as well, since i've said i'm getting a refferal to a more specialized person soon.
(You may wonder why i'm not driving myself. Well, that's a whole nother story, I'll let it sit that i have no current license and can't get one. I'm 24)
So, the thing is, my parents are completely unsupportive of me proceeding with this, and i'll have to lie my way through it if i stay around. I do own my own house, which presents some problems with leaving as it won't sell in its current condition. Also, i hate driving. So... ummm, What i really need is to find someone who can come live with me and help out a bit, I can provide a place to stay for free for them. And i'm in durham, north carolina.
Is there anyone out there who can help? Please...

Thank you
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I dont think you will be able to shut your parents out of this, and I dont think you should. They may not like what you are doing, but deceiving them is alot worse and it will make relations between you more strained than they are already.

So do they want you to be male or female???

I'm not shutting them out at all... I've asked them straight out, if they would just please come see the therapist at the same time. They've said 'no'. I've told them what I need to do. They've said 'leave'. So i did. Then they said come back. So i did. I've told them everything, given them every opportunity, I'm almost ready to just say fuck them, and leave and go to one of my friends in florida. But what i really want is to stay aound duke and get some professional help. And for that, i need someone to live with me.

sorry that is how i am at the moment. that is the only expression i have to this whole thing. i hope that i didn't make you feel un confortable by my post. i'm just shocked is all.

Do you personaly feel that you need professional help? Or that something yoru parents have stuck in your head?
Being transexual, gay, bi, or etc is not a fucking emotional or hormone imbalance. And the sooner your parents accept that fact, the sooner they can actually get to know you.
You are who you are, and if you try to be something else you only set yourself up for pain later on.
Now if you think you need help for other emotional reasons then go for it, but your sexuality is who you are, you cannot change this anymore than you can change your physiological sex.

You're mostly correct jasen. And i'm satisfied to say i do know i need emotional help, just as all tg's i know of do. However there is a hormonal imbalance which creates the situation that all tg's are in, and most people are not able to correct that without seeing a physician/psychiatrist/endocrinologist to oversee the situation. So here it lays.

What defines TG? At first you said transexual, which I assumed was more of a "guy wanting to be a girl" thing (or vice versa).
Transgender means you have traits of both male and female? That would make it a lot more difficult. you'd have to try to figure out which one you'd be most comfortable living as I guess.

they're one in the same. there are extremely few people who have the xxy chromosome out of the whole transgender community, i do happen to know of one case though.