Ok here is the situation, my Gf well fiance have been going out for about 2 years and i asked her to marry me valintines day and she said yes, well any way she met this guy earlyer in the year and she had made plans to do stuff with him like go to the movies, only they were suppose to mess around and shit, well i took that and still stayed with her, things got a little better but not much.....well more stuff like that happened and they did some "Late" night talking on the phone and shit, well ne wayz about 3 weeks ago she fuckin cheated on me with him and stuff and I dumped her, i love her to death but then she gives me these: It was only for 20 minutes then i stopped because i coulnt cheat on you, I pushed him away, i thought of you the whole time, im sorry i love you, and some other bullshit, I've been depressed and destroyed by it since, i love her soo much butim sick of getting hurt, the entire time we were going out she treated me like shit and i took it cuz i loved her, even when we broke up she invited him over the night we were suppose to go to a party and she basicly picked on me and flirted the entire time with him, until i got him to wresle and i beat the shit out of him. she keeps telling me he was annoying and she will never do anything like that again...Im very sure im not going to go with her again, but i also blame myself....CAN ANYONE PLEASE GIVE ME SOME WORDS OF ADVICE ON WHAT I SHOULD DO, OR BE FEELING, IS IT EVEN MY FAULT...?

Break up with her. You are clearly wasting your time with her.

Drop the bitch.

Or turn it into a kinky threesome.

You know... Everyone is going on and on about dumping her etc...

Maybe you should, maybe you shouldn't... It is up to you. Do what you want to do, you don't need other people to tell you that you should get rid of her because only you can make a decision in the end.

Heres my davice on it though.

If you chose to drop her... Drop her. No bullshit, no 'We can still be friends', no calling eachother, if you drop her, that is your choice but if you continue to torture yourself with contact with her... Then you are a fool.

On the flipside... If you Don't drop her... Then you have chosen to forgive her. But I suggest that you get the whole truth from her. Make it clear that you are not going to drop her if she tells you the gods honest truth, no matter how painful it is for you to hear. Get it out into the open, if she pushed him off or she really cheated on you with him. Tell her afterwards, your feelings, how you are with that. If you decide to stay with her after that, don't keep reminding her, don't keep punishing her with it, move on from it and rebuild what you had with her. Don't bullshit around though, if you love the girl and you are prepared to take her back, then you have, without words forgiven her.

Before you make a full decision though, think of it this way...

Would you be able to stand to look at her without thinking about that past? If you can handle that then you are not a coward, nor a fool. It is brave to stay with someone that has hurt you in that way and I am not going to lie to you, it is hard to deal with sort of thing but if you can work past that... Then you know she is worth it.

Take it from me... I am still with a guy that cheated on me... We are happy too, we have a daughter and another one on the way, I hardly think of the past now and when I do... It still hurts but I just look at him and realize that people make mistakes and he payed the price... He loves me so much and yeah, we have problems but we can work on them and sort them out over time... The trust will never be the same but if you have the strength to work on something... You know its worth it.

we have been broken up for 3 weeks and im not turnin it into a 3 some, im goin to kill that mother fucker next time he even looks at me wrong,

that is the most massive run-on sentence ive EVER seen.

anyway, drop her. fuck that.

Its just she has hurt me on mutiple times and just choked the life force out of me, im done with her thats my desicion its just i feel like there is something i could of done that made this not happen, I love her but she couldnt stay true to me even after the promises, im not sure i can do that.....But does that make me a coward to walk away..?

Though I hate to do, Imma gonna say what everyone else has been saying, dump the bitch, she's been leading you along, and using your dick for the rope. She seems to see you as a shitting ground that she can keep on using. No body deserves to be treated like that, dump the bitch, get her out of your life, and fucking move on.

Some people are the way they are... I have been through exactly what you have stated on this thread. If you are doing as you have stated here. Then you must remove yourself from her totally.. No hoping, no trying again, no waiting for that forgive me call, nothing..
As they are fond of saying in movies... "Move along now.. There's nothing to see here."
Apply that to your situation.. Elsewise, your in for a long and hard road to recovery..
THIS STATEMENT..... Don't.. waste of your time, energy, and life force..
Remember, it was her idea to let it go where it went.. And if this time was not the first, then she lured him into it knowingly.. Apparently, she has been sending you messages. What they are/were is for you to figure out.. Don't shoot the messenger just because the message sucks..

Take a few deep breaths, relax (as best you can ), and look towards tommorrow, not yesterday..

Uncle Tiggs.

It hurts, but forget her, she isnt worth your time, there is too much variety in life. But if you feel as though you must get back at her some way I suggest going on a sex tour through Japan or China and sending her the pics and photoshop them saying wish you were here in a caption, that'd rock. Then when thats said and done find yourself again and look for a woman who will treat you good.

Thank you all for your help im thankful!

20 minutes and then she stops theguy sorry but your best out of this relationship. If she was thinking of you then she would't be in that situation fullstop. Painful as it is move on and get somebody who is as in to you as you are them.

Stab her.

probably not the wisest advice... the legal reasons alone would be enough.

getting out is a good idea, though. move on, move out...

Eh, to each his own.

Me, I likes the stabbin.

as do i... but, only in dreams.

.oh boy....hhmm how about exploives...quick, clean and i like the pretty light!

Take her on a mountain hike and throw her into a nest of rattle snakes or copper heads.

Tell her you've discovered that you can't live without her, and you'll give her another chance, but just ONE more chance, be very serious. Then the first time you go out with her after that, hate fuck her in the ass and dump her publicly.

I'm not joking. She deserves it, and you will get back all the respect you've lost from this sorry situation.