my bf admitted to me last night that he has lost his want for sex. we spoke about it briefly and he said he didnt know why it was, but probably spending so much time with one girl. then he admitted he was bored, and that it wasnt me he was bored of but the sex. this has been bugging me all day and i want other peoples views.

i worried that it was him politly informing me that i am no longer sexually attractive to him, or if he was giving me subtle hints. what ever happened he woke me up in the morning by kissing me and saying he loved me.

can anyone put my mind at rest

that sucks

yea it does! i want to type lol here for no good reason.

He's laying the groundwork to either dump you, or come out of the closet.

Or both.

It's the End of the World!

Lets set some groundwork here..
How long have you two been seeing each other?
How old are both of you?
Are you actually living with your parents?

then i'll try to figure out the rest..

we are both 19 and have been together since we were 16.

i live alone and he lives with his parents, although he might as well live with me because he spends most his time here.

Sounds like it's all downhill from here.
I'd be ready to hear anything.
Sounds like there is someone hanging in the wings.

that is nothing but a great big pile of bull shit. if you are bored with the sex. you are also bored with the person.

because think about it for a minuet. how can you not be bored of the person while you are only bored from having sex with them? now that make's a lot of sence right there.

in this case you better take care of yourself. you don't want to get HPV, STD's, gonorrhea, and all kinds of other crap that you can catch from having sex.

and i agree with shock from what he has said from when you said this

So does he spend lots of time there with you? Or is he just spending time there.
And even though he says he's bored with the sex, does he still cuddle/hug/spend quality time with you?

Could be a matter of comfort, being together for so long her could be at the point well hey i dont have to have sex with her and she is still going to be around when i need her cause we have been together for a while, Comfort sucks and if you dont mix it up and shake things around it can eventually kill a relationship, First hand expeireice here *hand up*

yea we cuddle all the time and we spend loads of time together.

hopefully out of everything i said to you BathoryDukeside. that it wasn't harsh or mean sounding at all. since that is not what i am doing. i thought it would be best if i could clear myself up about it just incase you start to think and wonder about my reply. but i'm going to leave you to tigger. he is very good about these things from what i am not. because hence i've never been in a relationship with anybody before at all in my intire life and no experiences. i figured that you would respect this nonetheless from me. i'm just being considerate of you is all within this next reply of mine.

Well then.. My best offer of advice would be to start ( gently ) finding out things that might 'spark' his interest.. There are many ways to spice up your love life! Maybe thats what you two need..

I am going to break it down for you:

1. He is cheating. If he ain't fucking you, hes fucking something. man or woman.
2. hes a queer and hes tired of living a lie and genuinely does love you, but cant perform anymore.
3.He has a disease he isn't telling you about, maybe herpes, or HPV.

i wonder if they are ever going to return or is that everything?

we still have sex its just less often. we have talked about it more now and it he is telling me that its just boring, so we have started experimenting and he tells me hes happy now.

cheers everyone for the advice

woah you heard my calling... you must have some pretty damn good fucking ears. like dog ears...

woof woof

There also might be another thing. .maybe . . just maybe he wants to try something new. .he might be tired of doing the same thing everytime. .try new postions. .or have sex somewhere else. i.e.- in the car. .somewhere you know that you could get caught .. it just might be that. . update and let us know whats going on