well im having a bit of a problem...

i feel that im a terrible girlfriend and i need some help.... i mean some serious help.... i dont know what to do or how to act... sometimes i like to speak my mind but most of the time i say the wrong things....and if we ever get in an arguement i try to speak what i feel but in the fear of losing my guy i take his side and i agree with him... despite anything i feel even if i know what i feel is right...

then i began to just become this silly submissive person who just avoids trying to get into arguements and i just agree on whatever he says... or i just try not to say anything when i have 3 days worth of convo in my head... i dunno what to do...

i tryed just sitting around and just ocationally saying something but thats not me i love to talk and play around and i just dont know what to do....

im madly in love with him but its still on my mind alot.... when i first met him i was being the dominate one... but now when i try to be.... i get no response or maybe just a silly face or sometimes just a couple words then it goes silent....

ive been avoiding him for a while which i really hate because all i want is to be with him but when i am... hardly any words are spoken.... what am i to do can someone please help me???

i dont think i can help sorry. i speak to much thats my problem/ or was my problem, all i can say is u have to try and talk tothis guy. if it means that much to both of then speaking about the issue could arise it to end. but if u let it sit and never speak ur truth then u do nothing but lie to urself. i personally am on the other end, but i wish...........




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well when i do try to speak hes playing a puter game or something... i dont mind the playing(because im a v- game freak too) but sometimes i wish that he would take some time out to be with me... i feel alone... just like i do when im around my family... like im not wanted and i hate that.... and thats y i wanted to be with him... at first we were always talking i felt like someone really wants me and understands me... now i feel like something is missing.....

You just got an issue to talk with him. Try it, you have nothing to loose.

actually i do have something to lose and that my relationship with him..... but ill try to talk to him

You will not loose your relationship if you find him in a peacefull state of mind and sit with him and just talk about this problem.
If he DOES love you he will agree and change his attitude towards you gradually. If not, maybe you two need some time t be seperated just to see what is he missing out from you?

*sighs* i dont want us to seperate though..... im afraid we may never get back together... and i dont want a off and on relationship... and im afraid that if we sit and talk about it... then it will end in an arguement or a break up and i dont want that... (as u can see i have a pessimistic mind)

Seriously now if you keep up with that mood and do nothing, you will not be able to hold it inside you and then you will definately have a fight with him.

*sighs* well ill try to....

sorry mistress.. i cant give any advice.. i'm the total opposite.. we talk heaps.. but its not good, when we talk.. we fight.. adn then a screaming match and a crying session usually follows and then the next day its puffy eyed skinless...

tis ok... i talked to him yesterday alittle... we worked some things out.... i feel alittle better

sweety im the same exact way. i do it cuz i want him to be happy cuz i love him so much. im very submissive and and i make sure hes dominant cuz thats how i am....umm i dont know what else to say but if he loves u *which im sure he does* then its ok f u get in fight and u speak ur mind, u never know u guys might get closer and more open to each other if u tell him houw u feel.....it works for me

ill try to be more open with him next time.... i try not to hurt him because ive hurt so many of my other guys.... ive become so scared to do anything.. i think that i have to be myself more now... and if he cant deal then ill have to try to work it out or leave him... but i think that he CAN deal with me.. he has so far...

wow. you sound exactly like me. I'm so afraid of losing this relationship and I love my b/f so much that I'll do anything to keep it going and avoid a confrontation.

what helped me? we talk a lot online...im or icq...or sometimes when we're together open up a text document on his computer and "talk" through that. I find it much easier sometimes to type out something instead of saying it, dunno why, just is.

good luck

well things are alittle better... but still theres hardly any talking i really hate that sometimes.... i would like to here something from someones else execpt for me constantly

I'm going to say the same thing as everyone else. just try to sit this guy down and talk to him. tell him your feeling unappreciated and that you want to talk things out. if he loves you then he will. and if he doesnt, then you can find someone so much better.
me and my guy dont talk much but when we do its always meaningfully
good luck

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-Dri

i dunno y but i get so afriad to do that..... i hate when i get scared but.... *sighs* i dunno.... i just dont want him to be mad or break up... my heart has been broken so many times....and i dont wanna get hurt by him or even hurt him.... i feel like if he wanna change he can do it on his own without me tryiong to force him to do anything....

you wont be forcing, dont think of it like that, think of it as "i deserve better and if you cant give it to me i sure as hell can find it"...
everyone has been hurt, i can account for that one more than most people. but the heart always heals, even if it takes "forever"...
no one wants to be hurt and no one wants to hurt their other, but if it comes down to feeling left out and alone, wouldnt u rather have the option of finding someone better?
talk to him, JUST DO IT! if he doesnt repect your wishes, honey, you can do soo much better. it took me a life full of torment and punishment for shit i didnt do, but i found my better. so if he gets upset and pissed because HE'S screwing up then forget him...

we broke up... actually i to him it would be better if were just friend... i dont want to force change on anyone cuase maybe he wanted meant for me.. i rather find the person that is what i really want.. a person that really loves me and can see if he needs to change his way himself and not have me try over and over to make him... so im glad me and him are friends now... i feel more comfortable..... thanx for u advice everyone.. u let me see what i can do in the future...

I am happy for you.


PS: Does that mean you are single now?
lol