I've been lied to...what do I do now!?
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I just found out my best friend has been lying to me for several months about having a job. He's built this whole web of lies and when I called him out on it he turned it around on me and said the friendship is over...that I can think of him what I want...etc. BUT...he never gave me an explanation as to why he lied about it. What else has he lied to me about? The trust is definitely shattered, but now I'm livid because he flipped it around and it almost feels like he's making it into MY FAULT. Any suggestions on how I should handle this? Should I just say, "F you!" and move on with my life?
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People lie for a reason, and once greed and evil have been discounted, it's usually becuase of a problem they need help with.
Don't be harsh until you know what he was covering up/hiding from/scared of.
He was probably lying to himself as much as you.
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Post in Advice instead of Offtopic, then tell him to fuck off. He isnt worth any of your time.
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If you deeply value this person as a friend, you should be able to patch things up. Let him know how you feel, and that you want to know his reasons behind it. You may want to give him time to cool down, and yourself as well. Hopefully you guys will work this out, it sucks loosing good friends over small things.. trust me, much worse could have been done.
I sympathize greatly with you. There is nothing worse than being lied/manipulated/deceived, to me that is. You know your options:
a. Fuck off (name)
b. Attempt to re-establish Trust
I've tried option "b" too many times that I've turned into option "a"...even though it's a cold feeling, being cold is good sometimes. It's never justified in my opinion, but keeping yourself safe is your priority. I say this with much bitterness.........
Sorry to hear that. I Hate Liars. Try not to change who you are in a bad way because of this.
I just found out my best friend has been lying to me for several months about having a job. He's built this whole web of lies and when I called him out on it he turned it around on me and said the friendship is over...that I can think of him what I want...etc. BUT...he never gave me an explanation as to why he lied about it. What else has he lied to me about? The trust is definitely shattered, but now I'm livid because he flipped it around and it almost feels like he's making it into MY FAULT. Any suggestions on how I should handle this? Should I just say, "F you!" and move on with my life?
People lie to make themselves feel and appear better than they are. Perhaps he's lied to gain a certain respect from you. Ironically enough, his lying has obviously ruined any of your respect that he's gained. The fact that he's turned it around on you is probably a result of his embarrassment. He wants to shift the dispute. You call him your best friend so obviously he means a great deal to you. In my opinion you should patch it up, start from scratch. However, if it happens again...drop him....Remember....first time shame on him, second time shame on you.
// She put him out like the burnin' end of a midnight cigarette.