I found out today that my girlfriend was cutting herself. I feel confused, sad, hurt... I don't know what to do. The thing is, I've got lots of scars. I used to cut and burn myself a lot and I've got some big ugly scars that I'm pretty sure will never go away. She told me when we got together that she used to cut herself but she never cut deep enough to leave a scar. I guess I thought we were both past that. I asked her why she did it and she said that she was just angry and frustrated with everything.

She's always so happy to see me. Tuesday was the first day we couldn't see eachother in a while and she told me online how much she missed me, but I haven't been able to see her since then. I've missed her so much. I felt sick when I found out that she had cut herself.

rrggghh! I feel so frustrated, I don't want her to be in pain but I don't know what to do! I feel as bad as I ever did, just thinking that she was alone today and in pain so much that she cut herself. I've never cared about anyone like this, it makes me want to cry. I wanted to see her today but we were unable to be together. I'll see her tomorrow.

I've noticed that kind of "imitate" each other, we both kind of start doing things that the other person does. I just showed her my scars last week, I wonder if she might have done this because of me.

It's just killing me. I never thought it was that big of a deal when I did it to myself, but I talked to her today and she was in pain. I can't stand it. I told her how sad I was and she told me she was sorry. I don't want her to be sorry. I just want her to be okay.

I've never cared about anyone like this. I've never loved anyone. It hurts, but I can't even think about myself. I don't know what to do.

If you've cut yourself before, then you must know why she could be doing it. Cutting doesn't mean you want to kill yourself; it's a physical manifestation of emotional pain. All you can do is talk to her.

wow both people cutting this is out standing! well i think that you two need to stop being dumb fuck and get some help and stop cutting your selves!!

hmmm i have some matches. since you said that you set your self on fire. i could do that for you.

in other words ignore my stupid fucking ass. i'm giving you that much help on my information. ignore me.

all right for one thing i am being rude. that wasn't the kind of help that you needed. of course i could have been a little bit more helpfull and nicer to you. sorry about my actions to your post. no body better make a big thing on this "nice side" that your seeing to shy shy know.
again i'm sorry dude.

i know the kind of hurt and confusion that you must be feeling because i cut as well. if it wasn't something that happened between the two of you, try to find out what made her want to cut again. friends? family? maybe if she talks about it with you, it could be a type of therapy to distract her from self-mutilation. good luck to you both.

I was in a situation like that a while ago...this guy I knew used to cut himself and it drove me insane, it was like I was so powerless to stop it. I couldn't even find the words to explain how I felt. It sucks to know they are hurting so much and not know how to fix it.
Talk to her, seriously tell (again) that you care and you want to know if there is anything you can do, even if that just means listening for awhile.

Thanks for the advice, I talked to her about it and I don't think she's going to do it any more. She cares a lot about me too and she asked me to stop drinking and doing drugs, so we're going to support each other in trying to break our bad habits. Life really sucks sometimes , it can be hard to get from one day to the next without some kind of escape or relief or whatever, but at least for now we have each other.

This is not the first time things like this have been asked about on this forum..

I think the last one was the cutter talking bout the boyfriend doing the drugs.. Same resolution as well.. they both stopped..

Hurrah for you and them!!! Hope it works for long term...

*agrees*

Sometimes the deepest Scars are not visible

thats Scars with a capital 'S'

All you can do is talk to her and make her realize that its not going to solve or fix or do anything but cause more harm. If you don't like her doing it, then talk to her. And you stop it too! my guy made me stop and it was the best (and one of the only) things he's ever done for me.

talk doesn't solve anything. acton doesn't mean squat. you have to find the problem and eliminate it... trust me... its cutting first. then suicide next. and exp talks on that. errant... youve lightened up and gone dark one moment and gone right back the next... you ok?