i have a trusting issue with them... i have no luck into have women for friends... because they are either two face, want to control me, use, or take advantage of... but since i won't let them do that... i don't have them in my life... i'm seriously by myself.. but once when and if i were to have a women for a friend... i don't know how to trust her without thinking that "all women are the same and they are bitches and blah blah blah"

how do i get better? i'm most like to get male for friends alot better then what i would with women... but i don't want males and so i want women for friends... males are fine to have as a friends and only friends and nothing more... i just feel lonely not having any women friends... but its hard to trust them if you have been hurt by alot of women your whole intire life time... i don't get hurt by males... but still i want to try with women... except i don't know how to try or trust without thinking "is she going to hurt me... yes or no?"

in friends... i just don't want to get hurt and each time i do get hurt i go crazy.. and go crazy each time.

so yeah i want to know how trust without judging... and its not even that... its at the very tip of my tongue but i can't place my words on it... but without getting hurt. in person i have no luck with having females for friedns... but on the computer i do. or at least i think i do...

but i must know that all women aren't crap...

i should of made a pole "who makes a better friendship" women to women, men to men, men with women, or women with men for frieneds and why"

I've never had female friends really... maybe a couple, but never too close. Unless of course they were actual girlfriends, but that's another story. As such, my friends have always been male. Personally I think it's better that way. Loads less drama.

yeah they are a bitch to have! so mainly you keep yourself at a distance from them and with me that is the problem i get too close... but what is the difference in having male for friends instead of females and how is that better? that is what i don't understand.... maybe it could be a sexist related thing between people...

it's just i'm a women and so i feel comfortable being with other women and having them for friends.... but having a male friend isn't all to bad and it can be fun... but still feel alone since the males aren't my own kind... if any of this makes any sence...

so yes i feel alone and not trusting.

actually this would be a good debate! but with no war at hand...

so yeah i'm pretty much desperate to have women for friends.

I, being a male, actually don't have many male friends at all.. Come to think of it... Dyshade is probably my only male friend..
The rest of them are females..

wow are you serious?

usually for a male... i see them to be popular with both the male party and the female party. that was interesting to know and i'm not kidding. so how come you don't have any male friends and can they be just as bad as females?

LOL well, it might have something to do with the fact that i don't follow sports, I'm not into 'cars', and i think kickin back watching a good movie is fun..

For you, i think it might have more to do with the fact that you don't see males sexually, but you do females..
That makes females both a potential mate, and a potential threat to any relationship your in/might get into.. makes it harder to be friends. Of course there is that "are they being friendly, or 'friendly' to me" part as well for you..

Me, i just don't like males in general.. I like females.. to quote one of my favorite authors:
"What a wonderful world it is that has girls in it!"

I've always referred to be around females.. Hell, in 4th grade i used to volunteer to hold the jump rope for the girls..
Of course i went to a catholic school that required the girls to wear skirts
And the guys in my class didn't get it when i said that to them either.. Dumb macho wannabes..

so mainly those things aren't your interest. which is there for you don't have males for friends..

yeah and those two feelings ALWAYS GET CONFUSED!! but isn't it like that with the straight sex and how is it that neither party get those feelings confused?


haha well those males were dumb. if they didn't understand. oh well so either way its hard for both party's to have friends... because some people go with what they are comfortable with into having friends... heck some people don't even have friends.

exactly..
Heh, i get that way sometimes with female friends as well.. Pain in the arse it is..
i have 1 true RL friend, a few 'friends', some folks i associate with often, and the ones i 'deal with'..

well what do you do?

work, spend time with my son, and play on the computer..

work is my social time LOL

no i ment keeping the people that you have.

what am I not your friend?

oh shut up you are

which is why i'm happy and i don't want to lose you... so there for i'm always going to keep you close to me...