Ok look I am dating a friend but his ex is my x friend and now we used to talk but now i don't think she wants to talk to me and well normally i worry about everybody else and put them before i put myself and i wanna know that because i don't care what people are saying about me and my boyfriend because i'm doing something for myself because this is the happiest that i have been in a really long time and i don't wanna lose what i have for anything am i selfish?

Ah help!! punctuation!!

It took me three goes to read that

No you're not selfish, you've got a good thing, hold it with both hands and kick anyone who tries to mess with it

However, a little diplomacy and bridge building never hurt anyone (except for the river Kwai thing but we won't bring that up)

thank you that makes me feel better

River Kwai...oh man...

are you being selfish? no. but i have a question.....were you ex-friends before or after you started dating your boyfriend? cause that could be a whole nother ball game.

we were friends before and i was kinda we are not frieds we are friends cuz she was always making fun of me and picking on me

ok it took me awhile to understand that. so you stopped bieng friends before you even started dating her ex? in that case dont let her get to you she should be glad u are finaly doing somthing for your self. and i could kinda understand where she might be mad that u are dating her ex but if you two are not friends she needs to get over her self. did you understand all that.

*thinks wow this is almost like jerry spinger*

yes i understand

GOOD. now call your boy friend set a date and go out. HAVE FUN! and DONT look back

love peace and afro grease

Thanks i plan on it well now i have a new problem i'm getting called a backstabber over and over again by the same fucking people and i'm now a slutly bitch a horror gross and disgusting and people just keep doing it and won't give it up and it is really starting to piss me off i mean i know she really wasn't my friend but i swear to god if they don't chill out i'm going to hurt someone i mean i'm not going to end what i have wanted for the longest time and is working well i don't know what i'm going to do oh well i guess i'll just have to deal with it

I kinda know what you are going through. But all I can suggest is ignore it (I know thats Easier said then done) if you cant ignore it show it doesnt bother you or at least make them think it dosent. You following me so far?...... I used to come up with some thing smart ass to say to them every time they said some thing to me. I showed them that no matter how bad ass they thought they were, I could be worse then i just didnt give them the time a day. most of them got bored with it. in your case it will happen soon but not over night. so hang in there huh? if you eva want to talk I am here......................

Hey thanks for the advice i wil difently take it and thanks for being there for me it really makes me feel good

You are welcome. any time.

hey is every thing going ok now? I hope so! well if ya eva need any thing ya know I am here.