I'm not usually one to broadcast, but oh well. Please, help someone still adjusting to the post-high school dating scene.

Ok, so I've been talking to her for a few weeks, gone out a few times...She's a very nice girl, I like her. We get along pretty well, we have some common interests...

Problem is that for once, I keep finding myself at a loss for words. I'm just having trouble figuring out what to say...I've pretty much exhausted the general topics, at least I think so. I'm not nervous, I'm pretty comfortable around her.

Is this just because we're still getting to know each other? Or is it because we just don't have anything to talk about? Any thoughts? I mean, when we get a good topic going, its pretty good. But its been tough to do that, especially in person.

Are there uncomfortable silences? You shouldn't force topics like an interview. You and this girl are supposed to be around each other because you want to be around each other. After that feeling, everything else should flow naturally from there. Perhaps, some space is necessary in order to have things to talk about. General chit-chat is always a good thing because it shows you care about their day-to-day life. Deep things are always tempting to get into, but not always good to get addicted to that type of conversation. Hope that helps.

No, not like an interview...haha...

What did you mean about space?

I think that means if you spend more time apart you'll have more to talk about.

Do you have much in common? If getting a good conversation going is a constant effort then maybe she's not as comfortable around you as you feel around her, or she's just not into you that much.

Yeah, what Sybs said...and..... I don't like girls. They tear me up and throw me out like used tampons.

Its hard to tell. Usually I can read people fairly well, but here I can't seem to do that. Yes, I would know the difference. Best I got is what she says, and she's a pretty up-front person.

I know that in my case when those happen it's usually because I want to say something I'm not entirely sure is appropriate or feel like I talk too much. Though... in my current relationship I'm not having problems in real life conversation, rather on line... Because I use the internet and he doesn't....

Are you two currently involved officially or just some one you like?

We're dating, I suppose that's "official"? I don't know, I thought these definitions of terms ended with high school.

Well then, is it a defined relationship with terms and boundaries, or is it a sexual only thing? Because believe me, that does not with high school. In fact, not defining a relationship carries worse drama outside of high school from what I can tell.

No, not sexual. This is the kind of "we both are looking for something stable and steady" thing. And I think its going well. I think.

I hereby state that part of the silences may be waiting for some sort of definition to be discussed then. That's the source of my silence in person nine times out of ten.

After 2 dates? (3rd being tomorrow night)

You're doing the actual date thing? Eek. I don't do that so I don't know. I just sort of... talk and flirt and then end up with some one.

Uhm... are you two talking outside of the dates? Did you know eachother before going out the first time?

Talk to her like an adult human being.

if you're dating, you're more than likely feeling the chemistry out to know if she's someone you want to spend "more" time with. and by more, i mean a helluva lot of time. so the thing to consider is.. is the chemistry just not working?
your girlfriend is someone you want to become your best friend. if you aren't having a good time, what's the point? now i know that you *might* be having a good time despite the silence, which is actually healthy. but i'm not getting that vibe from you. it sounds like awkward silence.
i'm not saying to jump ship, but be honest with yourself about how well it's working out. and establish something in terms of where you two are at. i mean, let her know your intentions, at least. that does a lot for a relationship.

cupid poked surreal in the bum.

I killed cupid.
Just say whatever is on your mind and don't worry about it.

If she doesn't like you for you then she's not worth it.
Maybe she's shy?

Good timing, surreal. Today we talked it out, and the chemistry just isn't there, and it seems we were both hoping and it just didn't exists. And that is, as they say, that.

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