How much have you heard about a relationship breaking down because there wasn't much communication? How much have you heard from the man saying "I don't know what I did to make her upset" and how much have you heard woman saying "They don't understand what they did"

If you have seen this happenning, does the thought of "You need to communicate with him/her" crosses your ming first?

Well honestly, as much as I know how important communication is, it isn't so much of a neccessity in a relationship.

Comon, when you're with your gf, there definately some things you know that she likes. Say for example, she likes flowers. Do you go around asking if she would like to receive a flower tomorrow? On valentine's? Or when meeting for a meal later? No. Instinct tells us to do what it has to be done. How unromantic is that if you bf were to ask you questions like that?

It's the same concept with situations where your gf is jealous of some other gurls you pay attention to. Even if it's not much of an attention paid to his own gurl, it will still affect her.

Some of us wouldn't voice out. Why? I'm sure some of us don't like confronting our man and tell him that we're upset with him because of some other gurls. In a way, you would know that he is true to you. But still can't help feeling jealous about it.

So why would we choose to not voice this part of us? Dignity. You men have that, we gurls have it too.

When confronted to our man, it shows how vulnerable we feel adn in a way we lower ourselves to that level. Don't you gurls hated it when that happenned? When you're forced to stoop so low as to have to tell them silly things like this? Of course we know its silly. But don't you think you men should be more senstive in this area?

I mean do you guys have to wait till she explodes and tell you why she has been upset all along just so you can make her feel better?

I think not. I think if you had truely loved your gurl, you will know what not to do to upset her. Not wait till something terrible happenned and then act on it.

This is my point of view and I would love to hear yours too.

Just so you guys know, I'm not a feminist nor a sexist.

This is just something I've been pondering and think it's just not right for the guys to use "She didn't tell me" as an excuse. It sounded irresponsible.

No offence to the boys or anyone out there. it's just soem crap I've been through lately and got me to come to this conclusion.

Go right on ahead to state your pwn point of view.

d4rkange|

sooooo... whats your point?

whats a relationship without communication?

i stopped reading it like half way down. i got tired of it real quick. i'll read the rest of it later on tonight or maybe not.

My point is, as important as communication is, it isn't needed all the time. There will be times when we don't communicate and instead we act on it according to our instincts.

i think you missed MY point

communication is still important in a relationship a good portion of the time, if there's no communication then neither person can communicate a concern to the other. yes, there are exceptions to this rule, but how often to these exceptions come about? certainly not in day to day life, that's for sure.

The dumb little communication bullshit problems seem to lessen with age, I've found. Back in high school, it was hard just trying to figure out what time my girlfriend wanted to go to dinner. Now, I've graduated college, and women are a lot more reasonable usually. The appeal of an older woman is huge.

Communication problems? No. Immature emotional bullshit? Yes. Let's call it what it is.

communication is essential in any healthy relationship...something silly like flowers or gifts, those should be spontaneous, i don't want to be asked, but i have told him i'd appreciate a flower...he picked me one...Men are not mind readers, and they know as much about us as we do about them...

communication helps in several ways, you can let your partner know what you like they are doing, if they need to do something better...example. Sometimes i get caught up in my own world...my husband points this out and drags me back down...i appreciate that, if he didn't, i would be oblivious and he would dwell on the fact i'm not doing what i should be, and his anger would grow, reflecting it upon me....now i would have no idea why he's upset unless i ask him, but i do not, so my frustration at his distance towards me would grow...and then i would be hurt, he'd be angry and then the straw would snap...next thing you know there's a angry, hurtful arguement that has no resolution...just misunderstandings, accusations and overloaded anger.

People need to express their emotions, i personally know how destructive it can be to bottle it all up...it'll manifest in surprising and often time vendictive ways...be honest, if you're unhappy you have to mention it, how else will they know you're unhappy with them and just didn't have a bad day at work?

my husband and i have never had an arguement in our almost four years together...if something bothers us no matter how insignificant or how extreme, we talk about it...communication is essential in a relationship, whether it's talking about a bad day, an unruly child, a hang nail, or to let them know that they are you world...everyone needs to hear they are appreciated, needed and loved.

That kinda knocked some sense in me...

Thanks a whole lot Jordyn.

Cheers.

NORM!

norm?

norm... from cheers... *smacks head* christ

A man is not the path through the forest, but the guide. It she the woman who is the trees that bend the way to travel.


Follow your spirit.

ooooookay then... nothing freudian in THAT statement.

Hmmm...

Sounded like us woman are the ones usuallyin control of situations... whereas man... guides us...??

[b]ooooookay then... nothing freudian in THAT statement.[b]

I don't think you even tried reading into it.

men can get you there, but women can get you through? is that's why they never ask for directions?

*falls down laughing*

us men are inempt at most forms of communication. look how wars start. breakdown of communication 1st. then all hell breaks loose. sorta like between the eternal struggle/war between men and women.... strange aint it....?