I'm Allways Here!!!
Well, not always.. Hell, not even almost always really, what with work, kid, laundry, shopping, online games... But i will try to check in and post daily for this thread..

Do you have a question that your not wanting to ask the folks about? or the signifigant other? Or Your just not sure whats going on...
Ask the question here!! On THIS thread. And i will respond, as well as maybe some other posters, to every reasonably valid question asked!!

NOW!!!! here are the thread rules.. These are for this thread specifically AND WILL BE ENFORCED!!!!

First, The subject you are needing advice on must actually exist!!!!(if i find out differently....*waggles finger at you*
Secondly, all responses MUST be in an advice form(or response to).. Any Bashing, by my opinion(not the sites), will be deleted!!! If you post something to the effect of "Your just a stupid ***, get a life, whiny **** ect.." I WILL delete the post when i see it!! Or, if i've had a good day, i will just edit that part out..NO BASHING!!!!
Thirdly, Don't worry about what other might think of your problem.. Thats why i'm enforcing the rules on a hard-core basis for this thread!! If they can't help, they're part of the problem!! If i can't help, well.....
Next, I HOPE that others will offer insights as well.. They are welcome and hoped for!! If your suggestion(s) are put in a positive manner...

And lastly, I hope that all your problems can be solved to a benificial end


So..... Who wants to ask me a question on advice first??

* Steps up to the Plate * ..

Self thinks you scared the others away Tig ,A truely Serious situation is hard to come by ,so Self considers their silence respectful !! LOL ...

Here's my Q ....
Does anyone out there have any information on what ejaculation FEELS like after a vasectomy? I mean Oh shure all the info says its the same and your only missing like 2% of the fluid etc. ( THE SWIMMERS !! lol ) Or what the hell do you think of this situation Tig ?? I keep thinking of having this done as ..well the wife an I have one of thoose relations where we allow each other to play with others ,and so far no big issuses, however I kinda feel like im getting ripped off sometimes ( NOT the WIFE's Fault mind you ) . Since Im one of thoose guys that HATE CONDOMS but will use them because I dont want anymore kids ESP to another woman besides my wife lol !

The Issuse is mental for me as well as I have kind of an IMPREGNATION FETISH ( luckly this is under control lol !!!( Like many things I just like reading about this kind of thing but wont act on it !! ) ) .

So why the Vec ? Well ya see the wife and I are picky about whom we share with so yea were playing russian roulete with the STD situation but doing our best to have it both ways as we both love the FULL deal when it comes to sex ! So here's MY ISSUSE I like to Ejac. two times most of the time if I can and when in useing a condom i'll be lucky if I can get off at all , Esp because im worrying about the dam thing breaking ,falling off ,or just cant get the right feelings ..but there are plenty of times the first one isnt an isusse but you know (or may not lol ) how sometimes the second stiffy can stay useable but wont stay consistant thus causeing the condom to fall off then of course things feel better and the little guy stays ready for battle but then I gotta freak out worrying if the condoms still on or not !! ruins the whole mood so in this case a Vec. would be the key ....

Er ...what do you think ? tho most likely I wont have one done ....But I think of it all the time....Esp when I have this chick ...you know the one im not married to lol !!

I have actually known a couple of guys that got 'snipped'(so to speak)..

They have stated that there really isn't much difference before and after physically..
But in the brain it registers.. Dunno why. Guess it's like that ghost feeling for amputies.

I am sure that most all cases differ tho. I myself have pondered getting this done! If i had the time(hope you like kilts), and the money to do it, i probably would..
Things to consider are simple.. Is the doctor capable? I mean, you don't want to think your shooting nada, and then find out that your actually loaded for elephant!!
Will he/she redo it(and are you willing to go through it again) for free if your not shooting blanks?
How long will the recoup time be?(them kilts again! and poor Jordyn)
What are the infection possibilities?
How much is it gonna cost?

If you don't have a problem with the snip and the misses is okay with it(you have talked to her about it right?) as well, i would suggest Go For It!
Oh, and one other thing.. you will have to decide it you want em tied(incase you change your mind later on) or actually snipped.. Snipping is safer for the pregnancy part, but tied is better if your afraid of 'losing your manhood' LOL!!!
Any other questions?

Nice job Tigs !

Yeppers for me this IS a Mind thing on a large scale let alone cost and discomfort ...

Naw I understand your friends ..It's the same sometimes with the fact that me lady is tied . On one hand it's great she wont get preggers but on the other it's sometimes a bummer because I mentaly get a kick out of the possibility of impregnation ..EVEN THO I DONT WANT TO HAve anymore kids ..it's just the you know heh heh launch fighters tora tora tora thing ...

But at least you know some fellers who have tryed this ..

Me Im happy with my sex life even if i never sleep with another chick but my wife again so a Vec. isnt a big issue at this time ..but I think about it from time to time lol

( a Group of Abrams and Shermans ) = ending

lol, I could use some advice...

I need to be self-sufficient so I can dump my bf. (He's an ass, that's another story) Currently I stay home and take care of my son. I need to get a job. (I'm not that picky, so this part shouldn't be that difficult) However, I don't have anybody to look out for my son but me. (He's 5) He has special needs (he's deaf) and can't just be cared for by any old person. I don't have the cash to just plop him in some special daycare or anything and the chance of me finding a job that has daycare is soooo far fetched that it might as well not even be an option. (Can you say, stuck?)

I joke about it, but that's only cause things have been good the last few days. However, it really is a very serious problem, and well, it could be detrimental to my health and happiness to not have this resolved soon. If you have any suggestions (anybody actually) by all means, let me know.

Have you looked into working from home? It's the only thing I can think of at the mo...

I've never really heard of anything legitimate I could do from home. I mean... yeah, that would be ideal... but I've not come across any real jobs from home.

First thing i would ask you is: Are there any programs in your area that help with special needs(yeah, i don't like that term either) children? Most places nowadays have some sort of program available. Usually, there is assistance available for programs like that.. And at 5 he really should be getting into the education system!! Yes, i believe that you are teaching him well

Take him with, go see about the programs available, and if you qualify, get him hooked up!
Then bust your butt to find an 'at least' decent job. Knowing what the daycare/education schedule is ahead of time can give you the info on when you can work.
Don't tell prospective employers that you have a special needs son, they tend to roundfile your app. Even tho it IS illegal to do so. They start thinking "how much time will she miss cause of the kid" and, unfortunately, tend to base thier decision on that..
After you get settled in on the new schedule(s), and the money is coming in, Boot him to the curb!!!

I miss sign language.. Used to know it well as a kid cause my friends mom was deaf.. Now i just pick up every 3rd sign or so!! But it's still better than my spanish
Oh, and Mia had a good point too.. Medical transcribers do get to work from home.

Hope this helps.

excuse me for being a dunce.... lol, but programs like....? I'm just not sure which sort of programs you're talking about. He is in school, has been since he was 2 1/2 but that's 7:30am-11:20am, (I, or someone I designate needs to be there to pick him up from the bus). I don't know... but yeah, what kind of programs are you thinking of? (Even if I don't have the same thing in my state, maybe I can check into something like it.) (Thanks)

You might check into foundations.. There is one for just about everything.. I forgot what the one for the deaf is, but they might have some programs to assist, or at least know who in your area might be able to help.. that is, of course, if you haven't done so already. you can check with the state to see if they offer programs, or assistance for daycare programs after school. I know the ones here have mini-busses that take the kids there from the different schools. The state might include that with a work rehab program for you. job training is offered by most states.. That could help solve two parts of the problem for you. And if your a stay-at-home mom, Then you should qualify for job training(and the daycare programs that are included). I know that most folks don't want 'welfare' or anything associated with it. But If it is short term till you get the situation under control. Then by all means, use the programs offered. They might also have more info on local programs that might help your specific situation as well.. I'm sure the state will gladly help you locate sources of help other than them.. Thier good for that.. You could also see if there are any federal programs that offer help.

i'll think on it while i'm at work.. Wich is where i have to run to right now..

Well, I've done a lot of research since yesterday, and it almost seems as if I would be better off if the bf just took off... lol. I have heard that my son might be able to get some sort of social security disibility income. Yeah, like you said... I've never been a big fan of leeching off the system, but I guess it is there for a reason.

Another option may be to see if you can find a LIVE IN /AT job that alowws for you to have your child at the work site thus ..A getting you a new place if you need one away from your BF ..and B it solves the babysitting issuse ..Tho theese kind of jobs are hard to find in most places they do exist ..Things like Boys/Girls private schools sometimes have live on site workers with familys ,another is things like the YMCA some of them willlet you be an advisor ( BABY SITTER ) for a room full of kids and watch your own as well while getting paid ..

Or if you can handle it, look into becomeing a daycre center your self ..pays not too bad lol !!

P.S. TIG your welcome Lord-IVD ( The ICE BREAKER LOL !!!! )

I'd imagine you're already entitled to some sort of disability benefit for him, unless your system is so fucked it doesn't do that.
Have you already had your year (or whatever) of dole payments? If not you could do that and use the time to retrain from home and get a qualification in something specific.

Alternately, you know sign language, could you not teach it? Or become a translator in schools/colleges? Their hours can be kinda flexible, and they tend to make more allowances than any private company.

Nice Sybs nice

Was that a 'good idea' nice or a 'hey kiddo, back off, calm down', like you would say 'nice doggy, good doggy, don't bite me...'?

it had to be good idea.. else i would have stripped the post Sybs

And actually, i had totally spaced on that idea...

Well, no, as I don't actually know what that is...

I have a tiff. I always seem to just act out my life rather than live it. I am always hiding behind my happy mask of smiles and pink glitter, but often I'm hit with something real and it sends me on a downward spiral. So I was just thinking, should I go get therapy and happy pills or ... not?


Is that sufficient?

therapy is a bad idea and they get rich off of you. also they'll give you medication that would make you feel even more depressed. so that way you could always keep coming back.
save your money for something usefull other then a therapist.....

take some happy pills....

like this one crim


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