This is a very very touchie subject that I am about to share. So questions and advice welcome.......

I have tried to have sex b4 but I have never been able to go all the way through with it. (because of my past.) Well I did on friday and saterday. Well his name was Harley.
Well Harley screwed me over big time!!! Well come to find out Harley is a man slut!!! Then on Sunday Harley introduces me to his home boy. (I will call him CQ.) Well CQ and I hit it off REALY REALY well!!!!!! I asked Harley if that would upset him and he said no that he wanted to get us together. (CQ and I) And thats why he (Harley) made the intro. Well I slept with CQ on monday. (I felt like a slut but it felt right with him.) Ever since we met we didnt spend a minute a part!! Now he is in jail for violatting his probation! He was defending my cuzs girl. (she got hit with a pole by some crack head) Well when the cops showed up they found some beer cans and stuff. (We were not the ones drinking but he was around it so they took him to jail.)

CONFUSED YET?????????

WEL NOW COMES THE POINT OF THIS THREAD...........
I just took a pee test like two hours ago, and it says I am pregnat. The condom broke..... He said it was because I was too tight.......(you didnt need to know that.) Well I needed to get this off my chest. I just dont know what to do. I am going to get a blood test b4 I truley freak!! I did however find a lez couple that said they would adopt my baby if I am realy pregnat.
Well any questions or advice for me???????

Nope.

You poor pet.
Ok, urm, first, don't sleep with anyone else.
Second I think you need to go to the doctors, confirm if you are pregnant and also get tested for STIs, because these cause all sorts of problems, one of which is possible miscarriage.

It's entirely your choice whether to have the baby or have an abortion, no-one else can decide that for you. If this couple have said they'll adopt your baby though it seems like a good option, although you will need to go throught the proper agencies to make it formal and legal. The doctor can tell you all about that.

I'm personally opposed to abortion, but if you are going to have one I'd advise you to get it over with as soon as you can (so the baby doesn't feel any pain, and you don't experience too much of an emotional trauma).

Make sense? If you need someone to talk to or want to clarify anything then feel free to PM me, there are lots of options and I'm not entirely unknowledgeable on the subject.

ok so you gave some slutty dude your virginity, then you fucked his friend on a whim, who happens to be crazy and beat up crackheads. now you're pregnant. what the fuck were you thinking?

babies are stupid so go abort then go check your shit for STDs and never have sex with shady dudes again.

He wasnt beating up crack haeds. He was trying to get every one inside so that my cuzzin would stop beating them up. the crack heads hit my cuzs pregnat girlfriend!!!!! CQ is actuly very nice.

And YOU were a baby once.....No one aborted you!

I agree with what Sybs said, but your timing isn't working out for this to be a huge issue yet.

Let's start at the beginning.
Working from the basis that we're talking about last friday, eight days ago, if that was the date of conception, it would take between four and seven days or so for the fertilised egg to move down to the womb and implant into the lining. A huge percentage of eggs don't implant, but if it did, you are looking at about at least a week of progress AFTER implantation before enough hGC to be sure.

Now, I know that there are some tests that will detect at the lowest rate of 20, about that at 6-7 days after conception, but in all honesty, the positive results provided often 'go away', women get their periods and wonder what the hell happened.

You need to wait at least another week to be sure that implantation was sucessful.

You may well still be pregnant, and then you have to do what's best, for you and the baby.

People make stupid mistakes, this was definitely one of them in my opinion. Go with what Sybs and Nivvie said and seriously, I hope this was a learning experience for you. And well, it could have been worse - you could have been raped of your virginity. (You could have been like me!!) Unless you do think that you were, but according to what you said you willingly succumbed to this. So, just go to the doctor get everything checked out and when you know for sure what is going on you can make a decision, your own decision. You do what you think is right. And again, this is a learning experience, you learn from your mistakes.

correct me if i'm wrong....but i don't think a pregnanacy test kit is valid after 1 week of having sex....

don't you usually have to wait a few weeks?

also....not too sound mean or insensitive or evil or anything, but chances are, if you are pregnant, you'll prolly end up losing the baby......

i think itz 3 outta 4 women have a miscarriage their first pregnancy.....especially if they're relatively young....

also...i think most women have to try like 4 times before they actually succeed with their pregnancy....

as for the condom breaking because you're too tight.....thatz a load of shit.....a condom doesn't break because a female is too tight....if that was true, then the majority of people who lose their virginity or begin havin' sex would experiece condom breaks on a more regular basis......a condom broke on me once, and that was a year into our relationship.....

also....i don't get how people say they don't know if a condom breaks.....YOU CAN FEEL IT!!!!!

for starters, if you're a guy, when it breaks the sensation is a whole hell of a lot different.....havin' sex with a condom doesn't feel the same as havin' sex without a condom.....so, i think he's full of shit about not knowin'....i think he knew and just didn't care.....

but my advice to you, in the future, is just have a lil' more respect for your body and don't think sex means anything more than sex.....if you want a monogomous relationship, sex on the first date (or even the first few) generally won't be the way to get it.....

Wow... it's times like this that make me feel smarter than the average American.

Is her name Kim? No it can't be, she would have already lost her virginity in a swimming pool . . .

I was raped when I was a little girl which is why I chose not to have sex for so long. (I am now 20.) Harley did NOT rape me but when I told him he was hurting me he covered my mouth and kept going! Then we went to sleep. I would wake up and we would be having sex, I dont remember starting. Just remember having sex. Hes one of those guys who like the wierd stuff. He would choke me and tell me to fight back. He didnt rape me but he was TOO rough! I didnt realy know what to think. I understand that I CHOSE to sleep with him which is some thing I will have to live with! And YES it is a learning experince.

I hope you realize that it can turn into rape, even if it started with consent.

It was one of those "with in 5 days" test. But I do agree which is why I am not gonna freak till I get my blood test! this lady told me some times that when you loose your viginty and are realy stressed a test can read the hormones wrong. Whether this is complete bull shit or not I dont know! As for being too young I am 20. And for having sex for at least 4 times. We spent the night together so we did............

He now asks "How can you let me take your virginity like that?" Like it was ALL my fault! It takes 2 to tango..... When he asked why I was so angry at him I said: "I'm not. I am angry at my self." He told me that he didnt belive that and I told him "Some thing like this may be expected from you, but NOT from me. I lost my control and that is what I am angry about." I am not the one to normally break under peer presure! This conversation happened today. (saterday.) Well thank you for the advice.

I was JUST told that. When I discribed what happened to a staff I work with.
BUT NO I did not realize that. I thought because I said yes at first it didnt matter but I dont know........ UGH! I am just stressing my self out too much!

It will always matter, love.

honey....
i know im not really one to be givin afvice right now (u knw what im talking bout...) but u r my friend, an i hate to see u like this. so here goes...
i think u should tell harley that u dont think that he was respectfull of ur wishes...since that is what is coming across, and that u r calling the popos...if u choose to do so. (strongly recommended) then talk to cq about the whole thing.....ask him what he thinks.
but d4effinately be true to your heart....its big, beautiful,. an true. u knw that, and just seem to need a reminder.
love ya babes!

okay....i just.....you two (moonfire and felony) just....wow.....you make me want to cry and laugh at the same time...

not to sound assholish....but man.....you two....just....wow

if you two are true (and not yankin' our chains....which i'll give you the benefit of the doubt and believe you're bein' truthful) then you need a swift kick in the ass back into reality....

you two seem very under-educated....

i was gonna say this earlier, but thought nah....but now seems the perfect time...

you got played.....pure and simple....you got played hardcore.....and you let yourself get played because you're uneducated and mildly naive.....

first off, look at what happened, and see it from my persepctive.......you, felony, were a "virgin" until recently...in which case you had "sex" with this dude Harley (a friend? a crush? what?)....while you're friend (moonfire) slept with two guys nearby in a tent (or so the story goes in some manner).....

and now both of you are all "OH FUCK!!!!"......and with reason

felony, you got played hardcore darlin'....this guy Harley is all up in ya, enjoyin' himself....you're friend is off with two other guys.....so, i imagine this Harley fellow gets to talkin' to this CQ (or whoever) and is all like "yeah man, she's a slut....her friend fucked two dudes and i fucked her...and she said she was a virgin!"

and if i may say so, you got raped darlin'....pure and simple.....bein' to rough is one thing, but you bein' all "you're hurtin' me" and he covers your mouth and continues....and he fucks you while sleepin'!!!!!!....yeah, RAPE!!!! total rape.....i'm into some kinky shit myself, and hell, i'm a splatterpunk writer who likes the "exploitative" movie-genre (including extreme rape-revenge flicks) and wow.....hon, i mean.....thatz some hardcore shit right there.....he violated you pure and simple....and you being all "well, it was consentual, at least it started that way" is a classic textbook college rape scenario......shit like that happens all the time....

you could press charges....but, i dunno about the outcome.....the state generally favors women in a case like this, but i'm tellin' ya, that if you did press charges, the defense would eat your story up alive....especially since you're friend was off with two guys, and you still talked to this Harley, at least long enough to have him set you up with another guy.....but hon, yeah, rape.....you might wanna look into that....seriously....he raped you pure and simple, you should file some serious charges against that asshole....

but the bottom line is, is that you're settin' yourself up to becomin' a real head-case.....and here's why.....because this other guy, CQ, he totally played you as well.....and you're bein' naive about it....for

A. you said he's goin' to jail right, and you stickin' up for him (what with that lil' story about how he was only protectin' his cuz and whatever) kinda shows some naivity as you're tryin' to make him out as some knight in shinin' armor...when in truth, he's fuckin' scum....

B. you were all like we were with each other for days, and couldn't get enough of each other, and yaddah, yaddah, yaddah...........WELL OF COURSE!!!! the mother-fucker was goin' to jail!!!!!....of course he's gonna want some action....and it sounds like to me he prolly knew he was goin' to jail, so his buddy (Harley) was all like, well i know this girl, and yaddah, yaddah, yaddah, here you are now....

C. i'm a guy....and like, well, itz obvious that Harley just played ya (more like raped ya) because he just kinda tossed you into his buddy's lap....and this CQ, totally all like "ALRIGHT!!!! some pussy!".....and then he makes you feel guilty about the condom breakin' and possibly bein' pregnant!!!!! a guy, a true gentleman, hell even just a good guy, DOESN'T DO SHIT LIKE THIS!!!!!!!! i mean, this CQ totally went for "sloppy-seconds" (so to speak) and he gives you grief!!!!! c'mon darlin'.....thatz not a good guy there....

i mean.....i don't mean to upset you or be an asshole, but i'm surprised no one else really said anything remotely like this because i know a few peeps here are thinkin' it....because, yeah......if i may be so bold as to be ultra-vulgar, right now you are a sah-lut, a tight fuck, a cum dumpster to this Harely and CQ......

i mean, the mere fact that the condom broke and this fuck tried to say it was your fault (AND YOU BELIEVED HIM!!!!....naive darlin', very naive).....i'm a guy, and i know what a guy thinks, and that....wow....he didn't care....and he tried to blame you......even this Harley guy got snotty with you with "how could you let me take your virginity?!".....that is just....GAH!!!!......that just enrages me......they're scum....absolute fuckin' scum....and you're bein' so naive.....and you're tryin' to justify their actions, and yours, and makin' excuses, and tryin' to be optimistic, when quite possibly one of the most horrible experiences a person could go through (especially an uneducated female, who was a virgin no less) has just happened to you.....thus, i say you're settin' yourself up for some real psychological issues in the future....

if indeed you are true, and this happened....then....well....what is done is done.....my advice to you is to stop makin' excuses and stop bein' naive and truly look at it for what it is.....you got played, and raped, and now you gotta worry about STD's and possibly bein' pregnant......and if you are pregnant, and it is a successful pregnancy (which again, chances are it won't be) then givin' it up for adoption (especially concerning how you became pregnant) is gonna only further your mental-issues in the future.....

i'm sorry that this happened to you, seriously, you have my sympathy....but i think you need a swift kick in the ass.....stay the fuck away from these mother-fuckers!!!!! and if you really feel it necessary (because you do have a case) file charges against that scum-fuck.......

i wish you the best....i truly do.....i hope all is right with you.....i hope you come out of this a bit more intelligent, not so naive, safe, clean, and in good health (physically and mentally) and learn the most you can from all of this.....and don't hang around any scum-fucks.....especially those guys.....

No he didnt know he was going to jail.......I was there when he got arested. My cuz got arested at the same time. I Had NO IDEA Moon was off with two guys in a tent. I didnt find that shit out till later. I just foundout it was in a tent from you...... (MOONFIRE!!!!!!!!!! ) but Harley doesnt know her anyways. Yes in some cases I am naive.

I learned to be strong and look out for my self.......BUT that night I dont know I was angry and it just happened. I lost my controll and thats my thing. I have NEVER had a problem saying no to things then I got sucked into this shit! I know I know my fault no exuses. But its sad....... I am usaly the one giving this advice now I am the one asking for it! I deal with this shit in my job and here I am doing it! I promised my self When I chose to have sex it wouldnt be like this. I was raped and molested for the beter part of my younger years. Which is one of the reasons I went into foster care. that and my mother is a complete bitch!.... Uh thats another story.

And CQ didnt give me grief. Harley did, CQ said I should keep it if I was. or go for adoption. It was harley who told me to get an abortion that there was no other option. Harley is an ass hole!!!!! I hate him! ugh!

Thanks again for the advice Sixxx