I have been with the same guy for almost 4 years now. we have had our share of troubles and we have had our good times. i use to love him with everything in me but lately i have felt otherwise. all we do is fight and i can not stand to be around him for long periods of time. i went away recently (as some of you can see by my absence from this place) and wile I was gone I met someone else. I'm not sure if we are thinking about giving a relationship a try but I have come to see that I do have feelings for this other person (I am not sure if he feels the same) and I have a much better time with this person. What should I do?

personaly, since you have been with this guy for so long, you should perhaps try and talk these feelings through with your b/f, though i dont know about mentioning the person you have met. see what he has to say, see if there is anything going on with him, and if either of you want to try and mend the relationship. Maybe the pair of you could do with a break? this way you will both get time apart, chat to other people, and you could get to know this new guy better, see how real the feelings are for this guy.

or you could just try being single for a while, give your head a break from everything.

May i ask.. How old are you ? and he??
If you had to pick the moment you noticed the relationship had changed, what would it be?
How much like your significant other is this new person like? (when you started out together)
What things do you argue about? And what starts them? (on this one, i ask that you 'think' carefully about the next time you and he disagree and remember what words are/were said)

I know i'm sounding like a therapist, but with these bits of information i may be able to pull a hat out of a rabbit!!!