I met this guy online a year ago. He's 17 and I'm 15. He lives in Iowa and I live in Florida. He fell in love with me after a few months and it was the first time anyone told me they loved me romantically. I really liked him and decided if he loved me then I'd have no excuse but to love him back. We went through some shit because he and I are young, apart, and not very loving or selfless people in the first place. He gets angry easily and will ignore me often. He won't tell me what he's doing or what's going on but yet I know he will with his friends who I mostly don't even know. He ignored me with no notice at one point for about 2 months and during that time I figured he didn't love me anymore and we were over. I had told one of my male friends about him who sort of liked me and asked if he'd be able to contact him. He did and he also told my boyfriend some things I said when I was upset at him for leaving and caused a great conflict between the 3 of us. He later forgave me somewhat without ever telling me where he had been or why but giving some story like he usually tells about being chased or endangered which I find hard to believe though so want to. Another conflict followed in the past 2 weeks when he told me about more of the things that had happened and he was so upset I had finally broken down and told him it was over, I hated him and never wanted to talk again, it was stupid I know but I was so hurt. We later fought about it and I convinced him I didn't mean it and I still loved him and he says he still does too. He's caught in a fantasy world, I think. He likes to role play (which I only found out in the previous few weeks when he was sent back home after running away and the expulsion) and he's had relations with different girls and people based on rping but never told me about them when they were such a huge part of his life. It's like he doesn't care about my life either. He says he's taken by pain and is deeply scarred and it hinders his ability to love. He says it's something he can't change but that he and I must live with. When we met he didn't have these problems or say that he did, not until now. We used to share alot and he was comfortable with every bit of it. He says it's his family and surroundings. Since he was expelled from school he has been home every day for a while. Even though I try my best effort to spend time speaking with him while he's there, helping him and loving him, he pushes me away. He finds it annoying and thinks I'm getting too close but how far can we go and remain lovers? Am I just a fantasy? He loves me? What's wrong with him? What should I do?

Sounds to me me like he needs to sort himself out. But until he knows what he wants you will only hurt yourself if you pursue him too much. Encourage him, keep in touch, but keep your on life too.

If he's at home every day he's probably dwelling too much in his miserable head. Tell him to get a fucking job.

So apparently you aren't taking any form of English in school.. You are in school right?
Otherwise you would have at least split part of that commentary into at least 2 paragraphs..

So now for the advice part of it..

First a little clarification, if you would.
Have you spoken to him on the phone? Or have you just done the internet thing.
Have you sent snail-mail to each other?
(for you younger readers of this post, that would be actually taking a pen and paper and writing things down. then sending them in an envelope addressed to the person you were writing to with postage affixed)

What did he tell you that pissed you off so badly that you said you hated him?

And the hard ones..

Have you seen a picture of him?
Did that picture include him holding something that was hand written for you?
Has he asked you to come to Iowa to meet him?
Has he asked you to 'not' tell anyone about your conversations?
Has he asked you to turn off your log file? or erase any copies of conversations?
Have you spoken to any other members of his family at all?

These are questions you need to answer if you wish me to excise the demons that might be plaguing you about this..

Awe such a parent Tiggs. But that's a compliment.

Hiya Crimsypoo *kisses* glad to see your noticing me!!

Mmmm, crimsypoo...

I know I'm speaking to teenage hormones and that what I'm going to say is not going to be what you want to hear, but I can tell you right now that you're waiting for one big heartache. He's making up excuses to get you off of his back. You're much better off if you just cut the cord and move on. You'll find someone in you're area who care for you the same way you care for them. Besides that, you're young and you got time on your side. Just relax. You'll find someone sooner or later.

masochist,
thank you for the advice, it's much appreciated.

Darktiggr,
"Hiya Crimsypoo *kisses* glad to see your noticing me!!"
It's "you're". Oh, you want to get nitty gritty? We can get nitty gritty right here, right now.
In case you're not familiar with paragraphs that fill entire pages and stay on topic, I suggest you take an English class. Perhaps you're the one who's not grammatically inclined, Daddy Dark?

He's asked to keep us a secret and to see eachother in person on numerous accounts. He's sent a few photos that looked slightly aged as well. (If he were a paedophile I'd only be more turned on)

Doktor,
I'm constantly thinking about that but underneath his burdens he's my love and he needs me. No matter if he denies it during hard times. We're mutual in considerations of distance, age, and the true meaning of love. I'm not going to break up with him for temporary reasons that require we stay closer than ever. Teenage hormones in comparison to the divorce rate of adults make no eminence.

Well then. It's seems as though you've made your decision already.

(And just so you know youngin. it's 'Uncle Tiggs' Not 'daddy dark'. only my kids have reason to call me daddy)

You're not quick catching onto sarcasm. I assure you he's no paedophile, I'm not naive. I call you "Daddy Dark" with credit to crimsonnyte who said you were parenting. As long as you call me a youngin' I shall call you that of an elder guardian.

That works..

Actually, you've caught me on a bad week advice-wise.. Must have something to do with the teenagers at work. And the fact that your initial post reminded me of the 16YO bagger that went on and on the other day.

I really didn't mean to offend.
But i do tend to 'parent' younger members here.. LOL

Ahhh kids. It may sound harsh, but I think you're both in a fantasy world. Fifteen is far too young to be in an internet relationship. Even if he is who he says he is. (Which is suspect if it all needs to be 'hush hush'.) Teenagers are needy. As such, the internet dating thing might be fun to pass a boring few hours but in the long term I'd bet dollars to donuts it just doesn't work out.

Perhaps ten - fifteen years from now when you've dealt with the perils of dating, and have the maturity and experience enough to recognize somebody taking you for a ride it could work. But for now, you're too young to deal with this 'boys' life issues. Tell him to see a psychologist and keep your dating local.

hate to break it to you... but the true meaning of love isn't based upon teenage hormones.... if i didn't say this then somebody else would...

I said "Teenage hormones in comparison to the divorce rate of adults make no eminence"

Kendra said "the true meaning of love isn't based upon teenage hormones"
Exactly my point

FuckDoll,
My above quote says it all, age, hormones, distance, what have you, hasn't to do with love.

The reason I posted this thread was for advice on how to cope with hard times, not to give up when the going gets rough, we love eachother. I was looking more for support and what to do in the situation rather than how to leave it or be lectured.

there was sappossed to be humor in that...

Welp when you do meet, I hope you enjoy getting raped.

My, my, my. -Note to self, don't start threads in the advice forum or you'll get beat with lectures on your gullibility-
Trust me, if I was as ignorant as you make me out to be, I'd take your advice.
masochist was the only one who actually cared to look into the situation.
You inspired me to stay with him but not forget my own needs. You gave me advice on how I could help him and myself. Is that not love?
Thanks masochist =)

I would thank the rest but it'd be in vain propriety for the judgements of the "wise" who see a weak person needing molded from a nescient and moronic state of 15 and not who sees a person in distress to support.
I feel like I was attacked by a bunch of relationship vultures. >.< Jesus.

mmm...

if you're sorted out, already... doesn't matter.

but my advice is to live more before you decide on love.

Yea...kinda gotta go with what rogue said for once. I remember when I was 15. (Not that long ago really) ...and all that "love" left me was a broken heart. So just be careful dear; don't get used or hurt.

once?

Okay so I don't usually agree or disagree since I don't comment much.