Alright so I have this problem with shyness. I don't mean the simple red in the face, easily embarrased around new people type shyness either(though that is part of the problem) I mean light-headed, rapid breathing, 400 pound fat man on my chest, parylized with fear, unable to speak, or think, near damn panic attack shyness. How does one deal with this when the very situations that would help end it, provoke it further. For everything I know about social conduct, personal problems in social settings, and all that other happy horse shit dealing with people, this is the one problem I cannot figure out the solution to.

Hmm, This IS a hard one..

first off. remember to breath!
Then you might want to focus on something other than the person ( or persons ) directly involved. It can help with the reaction..
The rest is like any other problem. getting used to being in that type of situation..

What can I say, when I do have a real problem anymore, its quite a doozy. I had once thought it to be a result of my overall lack of confidence and self-esteem, but that is what I get for thinking. The past few weeks have shown me I do have much to be confident about, but that hasn't helped with this problem. Nah, that'd be too easy. At any rate I dunno if focusing on something else would help as I have no real focus when the spells happen, but I will try. As for getting use to the situations, that is gonna be a real problem as I don't find myself in those situations very often, which could be why things are as bad as they are now