When people talk about putting aside pleasures it is telling me to put aside happiness. To me it is the same thing. Just 'cause some people say you should do good deeds doesn't mean it's the only way to be happy. I am not against goodness. However, other things (like sex ) exist in this world & if so it was mean't to be. If this were true, women wouldn't have clits! (for pleasure!) Sex is not & never will be just love & reproduction.

For example, if I compliment her tits, she should accept that. Would she rather have me say she's ugly? Yet she probably thinks of a man in the same way.

People seek happiness in different ways. If you have no pleasures, you aren't happy. If I told you what to like & what not to like, how would you feel? However, I believe we shouldn't overdo it..we should keep it balanced, otherwise it creates problems. Thus, Yin Yang.