Errrm: This is really the kind of thing you have to work out for yourself.

The thing is, do you want to? Tell your friend how you feel and I'm sure she will understand either way.

uhmm.. how old are you? you spell like you're 11 and i don't think that 11 year olds should be surrogate mothers.. no matter who's dying.

hmmm i would have to say... you sould think first on what you want to do... what ever makes you happy... and what ever makes your friend happy... then when the decision is made.... you guys know what to do... sorry about what is happening to your friend... if you ever need to talk... you can always find me... take care dark *hugs*

I have to go with ArSiNiK on this one...

I agree with Shy on this one .Go read my thread on good intentions .I'm here for you if you ned me.so is Shy

adding mine to Ars and Chaos... that wad up there doesnt even look like a series of emotional mistakes... just a lack of knowledge. and i cant recommend bearing children of your own or anyone elses if its THAT bad...

The easiest way to answer a question like that is to ask yourself, would you expect her to do it for you?

I am not looking for a easy way out ..

Now for my vocabulary try typeing when you are crying
well she has along 5 or more years to go ..

I am a friend like a sister to her ..

But i just want to know ..

From other people

what were they to do if they were in my place.

i'd buy her a hamburger happy meal from mcdonalds... those always make me feel better. they've got that little toy inside and usually a connect the dots game on the bag. i'm telling you, it's hours of fun.

i dunno... they only have peter pan stuff this month... im holding out for the return of Hello Kitty

first of all age is a serious issue...secondly there is a lot to consider...it's not just as easy as...getting pregnant...pregnancy has a lot of things you have to deal with...first the changes your body goes through...there are aches and pains and can be complications...it's not cheap either...the younger you are, the harder it is on your body...secondly you have to consider the emotional aspect...it may be easy to say at this time yeah I can carry them and give them, but after nine months of carrying these little glimmers of life inside, feeling them kick and move, and knowing that this is a great gift, and all the baby classes showing the adorable little pink bundle of coos and goos...think seriously hard about this choice, and talk to others, perhaphs try to find a surrogate mother's support group, and find out all it entails...

Assuming that you're serious about this, there are an awful lot of unanswered questions here.

Is you're friend actually dying, or has cancer left her sterile, but otherwise ok?

Are we talking about an egg of hers being fertilized & implanted into you(I assume she has a partner who would be the genetic father), or would it legally be your child, in which case you can't just give it to her, however well-intentioned you may be. She would probably have to adopt it, and to do that she would need a clean bill of health.

If she's still undergoing treatment, she'll probably be tired, in hospital at least part of the time and may have to deal with a range of side effects, not least of which can be depression. The last thing she would be able to cope with is a baby.

I will have to defer to Jordyn on the matter of pregnancy. I've never had a child, but personally if I ever did I don't think I'd be able to give it up. Then again, if it was genetically her child, I don't know how the law stands where you are - you may not have the choice. But if she actually dies in a year, two years, what happens to the child then? If it's yours, you're still the mother and suddenly you have a child to look after that you aren't prepared for and may not even want. If it's hers, you have no rights and may never see it again. Can you deal with that if it happens?

However much you want to help your friend, I don't think you can even consider it right now. If she pulls through, then talk.

Take care

If by that you meen she has 5 more years to live then I would say no you shouldnt do it. for reasons obvious.

you know, you never really stated what your friend's wishes were. does she want children, but with that to live a full life and be the mother of her children? or is it more that she wants a part of her to go on? we all want a lot of things especially when we feel desperate.

in any case, i wouldn't do it. i'd consider it if she were healthy but infertile and perhaps i'd have had a child/ren of my own.

but if this is your first "child" which you will be stuck with, well in my opinion, it's more like you're having a child for her to play with for a while and but ultimately it's yours.

by the way, the poll is stupid. what does letting her die fit in with you carrying her child? in the end she'll die anyway and it doesn't really have anything to do with the child carrying. it just ignores your question.

I was not trying to do a imposible here"

Well in the poll you know how people here, well some of the mentaly chalenged ones think ...

And i am serius about this.. i just want her to have happyness for a little time .. A moment of happyness can be lived aver and over againd ...It can make her fell happy like it was her hole life ..

dark_orquid

how bad is the cancer? it can be cured you know. my grandfather was told he'd die within a few months if he didn't have this dumb operation. he refused and went to an all natural doctor. changed his diet and now the cancer is gone.