Once the challenge gets too easy then they decide to move on.

The same goes with relationships. When you get what you want then you want to move on.

Most of the people you will like are the people who are out of your reach.

What i've stated so far may be pretty obvious for most of you.

How ever.. do you really want to live in that way?

eg. You see someone who is out of reach. You work your way up. You get that person. Now it gets boring. You start ignoring that person. and find another challenge.. leaving the first challenge broken down and used..

Most people do that subconsciously because its part of human nature. Its not only in relationships. Its what people do everywhere.

Should people try to Not do that? Is repressing this part of human nature an aim a person should concentrate on?

I think its really sad and I try not to do that though I probably do with out knowing it because its probably a built-in trait.. conquer, destroy and move on

i tend to avoid challenges.....usually cuz i dont see the need to try....

I tend to avoid them cuz I assume I will fail

do you or do you not usually fall for the person you can't have?

um, im not really sure. sometimes, sometimes not. im not very lucky in the relationship department, but iv never got bored with a partner

Im not usually around people who are 'out of my league' so to speak. They usually just dont like me the same way. I still like Ash though :fear:

garg your right
thought a bit
yeah..um

YES!!! fuck.....i wish i could speak japanese....well.....thats my challenge.....

exactly..

..

Strictly speaking, people don't fall for the ones they can't have, they fall for the best, and that means they usually can't have them unless they're among the best themselves

I'm exactly like that, I get very bored real quick.
It's like once the challenge and exitement's gone, I quickly move on and it's not something I very much like about myself.
I've hurt a few people with this process and have no idea why I do it. I do try and be more careful in those situations, but like garg said it's kind of a built-in trait.
I guess your mind just always needs something to work towards, to keep you going.

I will fall for a person I cant have, but I do not try and reach them. I settle for someone who's in reach and I think I will have a better time with. so its not like I'm settling for less, because sooner or later they both will get boring right? I do enjoy challenges, just not in relationships, to much work and to much emotion ... and, is it true human nature, or imposed human nature? It all depends on the person, some of us enjoy challenges and some of us don't. Fear of rejection and failure, laziness, they think its hopeless, they think something better is somewhere else... I don't like changing myself for a person, if they don't already like me for who I am I'm not going to go out of my way and try. Fuck them!

well.....she isnt really the best....but still shes outa reach....
/me cries*

no cry

*sniff*
okey dokey....

......aye its done.....

I think garg is right..it is human nature to try to get to a certian level...when you are there you feel the need to move onwards and leave the challenge you have completed behind...I tend to fall for guys way way out of my reach and until recently I always tried to get to their level....I guess I have failed too many times and now I just sit back and let them go...this is perhaps one of the reasons I ahve been single for a while, I think I lost the urge to try to hard and and fall on my arse thus I don't try at all really anymore....blagh.

nah....its what we desire....
we like what its good....
it doesnt really have anything to do with reaching a high standard....
it just so happens that what most people like....is refered to as a high standard....

"eh?what can tomi do for ya?"

it'll happen when the fates decide, one day you are doing something as normal as shopping for work shoes and suddenly you're married...

good....i dont have to do anything special....

THEN you find out what Hell looks like (or one of the rings of it.)

I have only loved one person I couldn't have.
Too bad he won't say the same

Ahhh well...I made my bed of nails, guess I'll lie in it...