Fucked.
I want to move out of home, everything there is fine but I want more independance and some space.
My friend Anna has a kid and claims some benifits, she has a nice house with a spare room and I have known her for years, we thought it might be nice to live togther, I don't want to live alone and she wants some adult company......
Great solution! However....there is a catch a rather HUGE one,
because I earn a certain amount of money her benifits would be stopped as our system for claiming benifits considers the amount of money going into a household..not to the individuals..so they would expect me to support her and her son, as they wouldn not see it as MY money but as the HOUSEHOLDS money. I wouldn't be able to afford that, so the way around it would be to not tell the benifits people...BUT that is classed as benift fraud and as I work for the civil service I would instantly loose my job and she would be black listed and not be able to claim benifits either. So thats not an option.....it isnt possible for us to live toghter...if we are honest about it we both get srewed for cash which would leave us with bugger all money to live on..and if we lie and cheat we lose everything.
It's sooo fucking fucked up.

Thank you I am done.

SilverVeryFuckedOffNymph XXxx

it looks like you already know the solution. if it's going to fuck both of you over then there's really no sense in moving in together. have you looked for just a small one bedroom apartment yet? chances are you could find something decent for a reasonable amount of money.

governments are so picky...it's like that here too..it sucks! and i'm sorry to hear that silver..

I know hun..we aren't going to move in togther...I will stay at home for now...I really don't want to live alone, it isn't me being silly or anything...I just wouldn't like it...

Thanks Arsinik and Jord

At least I have a home, I should be grateful for that.

SilverNymph XXxx

it's not as easy as you may think to have roommates though. believe me, i've had tons of roommates. some were good friends others were not-so-good friends, but each time was equally as difficult in it's own way.

you may want to try and live alone for a while. if you don't like it you can always move back home, right?

nods in agreement with arsinik's wisdom

I suppose.....I mean I am always welcome at home but having someone to share the cost with always helps.

SilverNymph XXxx

what about a workmate or working pal/aquaintence

Neon

You can live with me neon Come to chat hun if you can Miss you

Jenni XXxx

well when I get my new job and can work form anywher ein the country, it may be a possibility.

You'll never see me though jetting off here there and everywhere

Neon

absolutely, but it's also nice to have a place that is only yours.

i don't mean to counter everything you say, i'm just trying to play a little devil's advocate on the whole subject. i've had a total of 8 roommates that have lived with me at one point or another and just like you've pointed out, it has it's ups.. but it also has it's downs.

if anything, don't rush into moving out. there's times when i would give anything to live back at home and not have all the shitty responsibilities that i've got now. you'll have tons of time to live by yourself or with roommates in the future.. you might want to just enjoy having a little less stress for the time being.

I'm never moving out. I like free shit too much. Haha.

and hey, atleast in "real life" you get to pick your room mate. i've been living with mine in my dorm for 3 weeks and we couldn't be more opposite...she listens to rap, wears pastel colors, watches BET for fun and is a very heavy sleeper....its been slightly pleasant so far but we're both starting to take off our happy faces...

although i think even if i'd picked a roomie i'd still be getting sick of em...

I know you aren't being nasty Arsinik hun I do understand what you are saying..and yes..to have a place that was just mine...it would be very nice..but the cost...sheesh..maybe you are right...I should hang on a bit get some solid cash behind me first, there is no rush as my family is stable, I doubt my mom would let me go without vetting a polace first and making sure my bank balance was healthy enough lol*
My parents are both very good at figures and bugeting and shit that I am hopeless at, so they are both always on hand to tell me if I can manage or not....I guess I am very lucky as I wont be left to fend for myself until I really can and wont come up against some of the shit people who are forced out have to worry about.
I think I may sit tight for a while...theres a guy at work who might be moving out and looking for a roommate and I like him well enough...I was a bit worried about having a male roommate incase of stress and shit between us, you know how it can be (not all the time though) a guy and girl sharing...could be awkward, but he is gay so there would be no misunderstandings there But for now I stay where I am and get my meals free

Isn't it possible to hook up with someone else who has a spare room? The benefits thing is really screwed - surely you don't have to act as a father just because you live in the same house? Gaa.