I'm sick, and i know there has to be many others who feel likewise, of the in-bickering/arguing/debating/"discussing"/ or whatever you wanna call it, about what defines "goth".
Personally, i dress goth, act goth (watever that means), think goth, but i don't listen really to any goth bands. Does that make me not goth?
Just go around in life self-deprecating yourself. Then no one can criticize you or insult you. Lol.