i say things that i don't mean all the time. things that maybe you desire but wouldn't rationally do. one time i asked my gf if her sister's friend was available because she was hot. now i did think she was pretty and would have said so. but i wouldn't rationally persue a relationship with her. i, of course, had no idea i even said that. to the point of accusing her of trying to just get me to admit something that wasn't there.