Before this gets too far a long, I should mention that according to Quabala God still over sees all the realms. It shouldn't worry you about whether you are in the right place or not, because there is still a purpose in everything.

I believe it is like an exchange program. It seems a lot of people feel elven. It is an almost parallel plane. Sure it is said to be green, plush and more magical, however, recognizing the greater purpose of being born to this plane is helpfull.

Everyone wants to be among their own to where they feel they belong, however, what if your one true love was always born to the same plane you are on. If you opt out they are just stranded alone.