I didn't ask about the morality of cheating... obviously if you cheat you are lying to yourself that the relationship is a good one... I was asking about what people think the issue of hiding it is.

Is it a kinder lie to your spouse to not tell, or is it just a regular lie not to tell?

*points up to the previously stated "it's kinder not to tell" kind of thing*

And geez Tor, don't get so grumpy, we're just talking here.

:p