honestly there is nothing anyone can say to take the pain away or even lessen it..once u love u love forever, even after you to are broken up. love is forever, not something u say to someone everytime u find someone u like...but thats another story....
my advice to you is exactally what you did, talk it out w/ people u dont really know so u can get an honest oppinion. its almost obviouse that this gurl just didnt know what she wanted (sounds like myself) and was not ready for the kind of commitment u were offering (hey once again i find myself) but after a wile she will understand what she gave up. lets just hope she dosnt realise it too late. but nothing can take the pain away, just wait it out and keep saying to yourself, well fait didnt want it to happen wich means there is something SO much better out there for me, but just wait out the pain.......and good luck, i know how it is to give ur heart to someone and be pushed down and kicked, dark angel i still love you even though u hurt me bad, so good luck to you..........hope things get better