I've been trying the "relax and let it happen" thing for about a year now but maybe the problem is that I've been consciously doing so, I'll try your suggestion and try to block the people and the event out, to believe that it never actually happened.

It shouldn't take me long to convince myself, me being stupid and gullable and all

I will try though, I think the key here is lack of focus rather than focus but I can do that

Fingers crossed, if I pull this off good things will happen