most people who are confused as to what society is, and have views like yours, don't actually know what society IS. this can create confusion and be a cause of twisted and confused views.

i suggest you do some readin on the definition of a society, institutions and cultures and subcultures within society, what it entails to be part of one or more societies or institutions within one or more society and the difference between a society and what people call 'society' and what that refers to.

once done with that, look up the definition of a deviant.

individualistic and society are two words that don't belong in the same sentence. no single person is individual. everyone has things about them that they share with others. Infact, the definition of (a) society is such that -

A society is a grouping of individuals which is characterized by common interests and may have distinctive culture and institutions. Members of a society may be from different ethnic groups. A society may be a particular people, such as the Saxons, a nation state, such as Bhutan, or a broader cultural group, such as a Western society. [Wikipedia]

Goths, Emos, Metalheads and Chavs are all cultures within society. They could even be called institutions. if you wanted. depends how you look at it.

i think what you have a problem with, may be the clash between different institutions and cultures within society. You're talking more about the reaction by one or more institutions or cultures to the way another institution or culture is. If you're talking about say, the reaction of Chavs or Suits in western society against Emos in western society, your reaction is not really with western society, but the chav or suit culture. not the other culture or institutions in western society such as goth, punk, cyber, or whatever.