raising the child of another can unfold in several ways, but like everyone else in the thread says, that's not the reason to stay with anyone...my husband is not my first daughters father, her father has nothing to do in her life except an occasional child support payment that's automatically deducted from his paycheck, she understands my husband is not her birth father, but beyond that no one else would ever guess that they are not blood related.

it was different, i already had the child, but if you are ready for all the responsibilty of the stress a child can put on a relationship, discipline, care, financial arrangements, and a myriad of other difficulties...it's something you should really consider, and if she is that lost on a support grid, perhaps she should reconsider what she's doing with it.

there are programs to help single mothers, a lot of times another adult living in the household can interfere with that help and you can still be a boyfriend without taking on full responsibilities for the child, children are not easy, relationships made around a child can seriously suck, and ultimately if it's going to be a stressed relationship, it won't be good for the child on any level, and that should ideally be everyone's first concern.