hmmm... do what i do, when you're not sure about something take the path of least resistance. make a healthy compromise with yourself. for example, you could dress up totally goth every day, or you could just wear normal-style clothes, though all black. that way, you don't have much extra work (i assume you would normally get dressed anyway) and you still get to make something of a statement. for piece of mind more than anything, i guess. grrr. if the idea of others thinking you look goth makes you happy, go for it. if you want them to think you act goth, go for that. but when you're not sure, make life easy on yourself.