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cshadow · **provocations -** 10-10-06

Hi,

I hate conflicts and I hate if someone provokes me (Internet and RL). To avoid most of the conflicts (aggressive), I've got a system. I think it is not perfec. I want to know what you think about it and how are you avoiding conflicts.

Quote:

- Someone provokates me (e. g. I wrote/said something he don't likes. Most times, this provocation is written like a joke - like 'go away or I'll get angry')
+ I ignore it, cause I don't want a conflict.
- Seceond provocation (a little more aggressive cause he thinks I just not heared the first one)
+ I say, that I didn't want to annoy anybody and that he can ingore what I said.
- Third provocation (more aggressive, at this point I'm thinking that his problem is my person)
+ I say, that I don't want a conflict and I don't want to make us to enemys.
- Most times he ignors me. When I put a "did u" on my last sentence, I earn sometimes a yes (that's the time I c that I'm his problem). If this would happen in RL, I think I would recive a little punch.
+ I'm fed up now. I hate violence. I tell him, that I did nothing wrong and (if possible) the weakpoints of his arguments .
- Now most ppl explode. In their mind sentences like "how dare u? I'm god!". Insults more and more - in short: "flaming"
+ I say again, that I'm not here to fight or make somebody my enemy. I want peace, I'm pissed of and I don't want to discuss any more.
- Total ignoration, flaming continius. - At this point, I go. I hate this. But if I say one more thing, in RL there would be a fight or something similar, in the internet, the flame would be that much, if there was an admin, I would become baned.

The first time, the whole list became truth, I thought "this guy had a bad day, maybe he drunkt too much". Currently, I feel that it is quite impossible, that everyone drunk too much. So I'm thinking that the mistake is by me. On the other hand I think, the guy has a great potential of aggressions.

Is this system ok?
Any suggestions?
Is it wrong to go away, if we reach the last points of my list?

so far

cshadow

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