Unfortunately that can be easier said than done, and I will give you damn good example: I have an older sister, I found out about her last christmas. So, for the past 10 months she and I have been talking, asking a lot of questions. As it turns out she and I have led nearly identical lives in that we have suffered much of the same traumas, same difficulties. I find that I have delt with the end results better than she has, with out the need for medication(though she frequently tells me that I should be on some), and yet she has had more time to deal with the problems that what I have