love:

in general if you truly love some"thing" you will do any thing to get it.

you are complicating the issue a little bit by adding another indivdual into the mix whom we are assuming has free will. Because each person truly loves themselves most of all we as humans make rationlizations all the time to protect what we truly love the most. things like "this can only end in tragedy so because I love the other person so much I gotta walk away now to protect them" really the the individual is protecting itself. dont mention stories they are typically set up to try and guide people to unrealistic behavior. I would also say if someone was "truly" in love there would be some action.

perception:

I agree with you. However your perception of the action may cause you to hate but hate does not cause you to seek revenge.