Jordyn,

thanx for the advice the way you typed it made more sense to me than it does in my head,

we bought some new porn so the sex thing is slowly cumming back, but really I guess the biggest problem is still the drinking I just come from a family of alcoholics and I have seen what it does, and avoided that path myself, I just wish it wasen't 2 6packs a day, which really dosen't sound bad until you realize that it's always dark rich beers like 7.5% alcohol.
but you might be right maybe I do need to approach it in a different way,I'll try tonite,
thanx.