Thanks. I know what you mean. I've also learned from my mistakes - the depency stuff, abandonment phobia, is something I've only just come to realize. I'll need to critically analyze any new situation with that in mind before I make any serious choices in life. Question the motives.
Despite the whiny tone of my fisrt post, I already feel better about myself. That relationship was doomed from the get-go. I feel so liberated now. Clear-headed, you know?