Valerian tea doesn't work on me either
I'm a troubles sleeper aswell ;-)

What I had to do was:
* Turn away the alarmclock so you can't see what time it is
* No naps during the day no matter how tired you get
* Pyjama is for bed only, not to keep on in the house
* Make a ritual; take a bath/walk, drink hotmilk with anise, pyjamas, read a few pages, close your eyes
* Don't stay in bed if you can't get to sleep after a while
* Get up (get dressed) and do something (ironing needs to be done ;-) )
* Get tired (change into pyjamas again) return to bed
* Get up at a regular time every day

To start it all I had to stay up untill I got tired, if it is 4 am, good, go to bed at 4 am, if it is 10 am, don't go to bed but stay up, 10am is daytime.
You will be tired later on ;-)
Get up at your regular time, even if you just got in bed at 4am and your regular getting up time is 8am. Stick to your regular getting up time! (sleep or no sleep)

Continue this and you will regain a normal day/night rhythme.
If you keep this going, eventually you will fall asleep easier and at normal times.
It takes time for the body to adjust so don't give up after just 2 weeks.

I got this skedule from a "sleeping clinic".
It worked for me! And no pills :-)


I also filled in a form everyday, to keep track of my rhythme and it was also good for the doctor to analyze where the problem is (if needed), might be handy for you too (if you need prof. help later on, you never know)
Fill in the date,
Took nap from .... to .... /Took no nap
Nap was planned/not planned (spontaneously fell asleep)
After nap was I tired? (scale 1-5)
Went to bed at ...
Fell asleep after about ....minutes/hours (make a guess, you can't see the clock because it is turned away)
Got up at ...
Woke by the alarm/Woke on my own
In the morning am I tired? (scale 1-5)
Activities of the previous day were: (scale 1 (nothing) - 5 (lots))

Hope it helps