You know... Everyone is going on and on about dumping her etc...

Maybe you should, maybe you shouldn't... It is up to you. Do what you want to do, you don't need other people to tell you that you should get rid of her because only you can make a decision in the end.

Heres my davice on it though.

If you chose to drop her... Drop her. No bullshit, no 'We can still be friends', no calling eachother, if you drop her, that is your choice but if you continue to torture yourself with contact with her... Then you are a fool.

On the flipside... If you Don't drop her... Then you have chosen to forgive her. But I suggest that you get the whole truth from her. Make it clear that you are not going to drop her if she tells you the gods honest truth, no matter how painful it is for you to hear. Get it out into the open, if she pushed him off or she really cheated on you with him. Tell her afterwards, your feelings, how you are with that. If you decide to stay with her after that, don't keep reminding her, don't keep punishing her with it, move on from it and rebuild what you had with her. Don't bullshit around though, if you love the girl and you are prepared to take her back, then you have, without words forgiven her.

Before you make a full decision though, think of it this way...

Would you be able to stand to look at her without thinking about that past? If you can handle that then you are not a coward, nor a fool. It is brave to stay with someone that has hurt you in that way and I am not going to lie to you, it is hard to deal with sort of thing but if you can work past that... Then you know she is worth it.

Take it from me... I am still with a guy that cheated on me... We are happy too, we have a daughter and another one on the way, I hardly think of the past now and when I do... It still hurts but I just look at him and realize that people make mistakes and he payed the price... He loves me so much and yeah, we have problems but we can work on them and sort them out over time... The trust will never be the same but if you have the strength to work on something... You know its worth it.