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~G~ · 12-16-04

Honesty = best policy, no matter what.

As far as should it end, that is something only the two of you (you and your b/f) can decide. I mean, it IS possible to work something like this out (not easily, I should add). Question your mistake...have you learned anything from it? Is there any chance that your b/f will be able to truly talk the situation out with you and be willing to work past it? Do you think he will truly be able to forgive you (and I don't mean just say the words "I forgive you") and that you will be able to be sorry (and not just say "sorry" but do what it takes to earn back his trust and not repeat and to learn from your error in judgment)? On the other hand, can you honestly and truly live with not telling him (guilt can be a pervasive thing, and like the old saying goes, "you are only as sick as your secrets")? These are things you might want to think about.

I can say this...(from my perspective anyway) drunk or not, something is/was going on within you or your relationship that prompted you to kiss your friend. Only you would know what that is. People who are in even solid relationships still get tempted, yes; after all, we are all only human. The dividing line comes with what you DO about those urges, and I would think someone confident and feeling good about what is going on with themselves and their relationship would be most likely to exercise restraint of their impulses realizing that there is a larger reward in doing so.

Good luck, no matter what happens.

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