shy, it doesn't have anything to do with the "lifestyle" as you call it. people are born gay/lesbian. it has nothing to do with the relationships that you have. it means that you are attracted to people of the same sex and not of the opposite. how can you call it bullshit when you've only dated one girl, and one that you never met at that? how can you possibly know if you are or aren't gay if you haven't gotten out and dated around a bit? try dating guys, if that doesn't work for you, try girls. that's what i did even though i always knew that i was a lesbian in the back of my mind. i was too frightened to admit it because of my family background and how my father's family reacts to that kind of thing it made it increasingly difficult to come out. shy shy, don't be so quick to judge.